Relationships
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Dependency Is Actually GOOD for Your Relationship, Here’s Why

Christine Schoenwald for YourTango Who knew!? To all those people who decided to put off relationships and love until they accomplished their career goals: you may have gotten things backward. It seems that when we have a solid base of support from our loved one, we feel free to take bigger chances and gain bigger rewards. This […]

Confessions
Sometimes You Just Have to Walk Away from a Marriage Over Sex

BigDudesStealMonkeys had a very thoughtful response to a vanilla woman married to a secretly kinky (and cheating) husband: I have a daughter, and I would be happy with her doing anything that made HER happy. If that’s BDSM, then so be it. Some people enjoy that type of playful sex, and who the hell are […]

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Take Our Relationship Compatibility Test

We’ve been penning a sex and love advice column for a loooong time now, which means that we’ve heard from our share of readers who are struggling in their relationships. Over the years, certain themes have emerged — sure, you’ll get the occasional couple who wants to involve their labrador in a threeway, but most of […]

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The Best Butt Sex Philosophy: Your Booty, Your Business

Chuck is our kind of guy. In fact, he’s the kind of guy we’re hoping to create more of with this here site and all its post on anal play. He recently commented on one — “Do Most Straight Men Secretly Love Bum Play?” — and made us proud: I’m married, straight, and really like it! If […]

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10 Clues You’re Dating a Keeper

Here are a few questions to ask yourself about the person you’re dating before offering them a permanent position. Three strikes is forgivable (otherwise neither of us would pass our own test), four is a bit sketchy, and as for five or more…don’t make us say “we told you so.” 1. Are you the center […]

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5 Fixes for Saying the Wrong Name in Bed

Dear Em & Lo,  I like this man so much. But I called him my ex’s name when he was going down on me and I wasn’t even thinking of my ex or anything! I was with my ex for 2 years and this guy 3 months. I’m done with my ex but the new […]

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5 Signs He Doesn’t Like You as Much as You Like Him

By Kelly P. Crossing for YourTango You’re dating this cute guy. He’s a real charmer. You like him — a lot. But then you have a disturbing thought when you’re apart: what if you like him more than he likes you?  You want to find out (no, you need to find out), because the answer to your predicament can mean the difference […]

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6 Ways to Address Waning Sex in a Relationship

Today’s Comment of the Week comes from two different readers who had such wise advice on the topic of one partner’s decreasing libido in a fairly new relationship, we combined them into a top 5 list!:  [From “J”] It is normal for passion and sex to decrease as a relationship progresses. Our bodies and brains […]

Your Call
His Parents Don’t Want Us Sleeping in the Same Bedroom (P.S. We’re Adults)

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section.  I’m goint to my boyfriend’s family’s house for […]

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10 Ways to Tell If You’re Dating a Narcopath (Narcissist-Sociopath)

They’re a dangerous breed. What do you get when you cross a sociopath with a narcissist? The least funny joke and the worst kind of hybrid: a narcissistic sociopath, narcopath for short. Both a narcissist and sociopath have an inflated sense of how important they are, as well as a constant need for praise and admiration. One commonality between the two is their ability to fool others in order to get […]