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5 Ways to Beat the Green-Eyed Monster

Here are our top 5 tips for vanquishing the green-eyed monster. Or at least making friends with it. 1. Date within your own jealousy league.  We know this is hard to control — chemistry being what it is — but your best bet is to date someone whose jealousy meter is about equivalent to yours. For […]

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Why Won’t Her Older Boyfriend Have Sex with Her?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section.  Well, I absolutely LOVE older men. I have […]

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6 Key Steps to Finding (or Improving) Love

Katie and Gay Hendricks for You’re going about it all wrong. Ladies and gentlemen, if you’re aching to find love this year, forget about “conquering” the dating scene. And if you want to dramatically improve your relationship, here’s our surprising advice: Forget about trying to make your relationship better! Why? Because complaining that there are no good people out […]

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Top 10 Reasons for Being – and Staying – Monogamous

Monogamy gets a bad rap these days — people say it’s unnatural, impossible, outdated, stifling. And, yes, sometimes it is! Especially if your wedding anniversary now contains two digits. But anything worth fighting for will usually put you through the ringer, and monogamy is no exception. So before your partner’s bad habits drive you to […]

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How Do You Deal with a Surprise Breakup?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader: Dear Em & Lo, Me and my ex were together for almost 2 years. He broke up with me last month, and I was […]

Dependency Is Actually GOOD for Your Relationship, Here’s Why

Christine Schoenwald for YourTango Who knew!? To all those people who decided to put off relationships and love until they accomplished their career goals: you may have gotten things backward. It seems that when we have a solid base of support from our loved one, we feel free to take bigger chances and gain bigger rewards. This […]

Sometimes You Just Have to Walk Away from a Marriage Over Sex

BigDudesStealMonkeys had a very thoughtful response to a vanilla woman married to a secretly kinky (and cheating) husband: I have a daughter, and I would be happy with her doing anything that made HER happy. If that’s BDSM, then so be it. Some people enjoy that type of playful sex, and who the hell are […]

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Take Our Relationship Compatibility Test

We’ve been penning a sex and love advice column for a loooong time now, which means that we’ve heard from our share of readers who are struggling in their relationships. Over the years, certain themes have emerged — sure, you’ll get the occasional couple who wants to involve their labrador in a threeway, but most of […]

The Best Butt Sex Philosophy: Your Booty, Your Business

Chuck is our kind of guy. In fact, he’s the kind of guy we’re hoping to create more of with this here site and all its post on anal play. He recently commented on one — “Do Most Straight Men Secretly Love Bum Play?” — and made us proud: I’m married, straight, and really like it! If […]

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10 Clues You’re Dating a Keeper

Here are a few questions to ask yourself about the person you’re dating before offering them a permanent position. Three strikes is forgivable (otherwise neither of us would pass our own test), four is a bit sketchy, and as for five or more…don’t make us say “we told you so.” 1. Are you the center […]