Seduction
Sex Poetry
Emily Dickinson’s Hot Bee-on-Flower Action

It’s always the quiet ones. Introverted Emily Dickinson led a solitary life in a 19th century Puritanical Massachusetts community — the kind of ascetic, lonely life that really knows true longing and yearning. Think of St. Teresa, the 14th century cloistered nun whose description of her ecstatic vision of God is hotter than most erotica. When spirituality […]

How To
8 Ways Great Sex Starts WITHOUT Your Partner

If you want to start eating healthy, you know that changing your relationship to food is more effective than a crash diet. The same is true with your sex life. Concerning yourself with just the act of sex is like only counting calories. There are numerous aspects of your daily life that affect sex in […]

Sex Poetry
Poet John Donne’s Hard Sell of Sex

Update the language, and John Donne’s “To His Mistress Going to Bed” could be an R&B sex song on the radio today. All about trying to get his lady buck nekkid, this late 16th/early 17th-century British elegy employs hilarious metaphors and euphemisms for body parts and bodily functions (e.g. his soldier is tired of standing, […]

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5 Ways to Get “Koselig” with a Loved One This Winter

We were recently introduced to the awesome Norwegian word koselig, which means a sense of coziness. According to a Fast Company article, koselig is “like the best parts of Christmas, without all the stress. People light candles, light fires, drink warm beverages, and sit under fuzzy blankets.” And according to recent research by a Stanford […]

Research
Your Thanksgiving Dinner Is One Big Aphrodisiac!

Note from Em & Lo: We’re not 100 percent sold on the scientific validity of everything in this article from our friends at YourTango, but we’re all for anything that helps justify stuffing your face on Thanksgiving!  That’s right: what happens at the Thanksgiving table has been proven to get the blood flowing, and we’re not […]

Advice
The 4 Motives of Pick-Up Artistry

The following is part of a series on pickup artistry by longtime reader and contributor Johnny: When I first looked into PU – not the game, but the actual real-time community – I was surprised at its positivity. If it had been full of anger or misogyny I would have been turned right off by […]

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The 5 Necessary Steps for Getting a Pickup Artist to Commit

The following is part of a series on pickup artistry by longtime reader and contributor Johnny: If you really like someone you suspect is a pickup artist – and that’s a decision you may re-evaluate now that I’ve lifted the veil for you – here’s what it takes for a woman to lock down a PUA: […]

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5 Signs You’re Dating a Pickup Artist

You’re a straight woman, and you like this guy. You have fun, you have chemistry, and then you have sex. At which point, he seems to disappear. But not totally. Sound familiar? Chances are he’s read the Pick Up Artist lit and is following it to a T. Below, read up on the 5 tell-tale […]

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5 Ideas for a Grownup Games Night with Your Partner

photo via flickr Who says games nights are just for bored kids and drunken singles hoping for a threeway? There’s no reason why committed monogamists shouldn’t have some fun, too. Here are five D.I.Y. ideas for playing together… it’s like foreplay, except with dice!   1. Spin the Sex Manual  >Grab a couple pairs of […]

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Why You Should Ditch Tinder and Give Out Your Number Instead

photo via flickr We’re normally pretty skeptical of the click-baity headlines in Men’s Health magazine. 4 Week Fat Shredder! 12 Scientific Ways to Look Smarter! How Listening to Your Mom Can Make You Fat! But we really loved the recent article by David Amsden, called “Give Her Your Number.” (Amsden is the author of the […]