Seduction
How To
5 Ways to Get “Koselig” with a Loved One This Winter

We were recently introduced to the awesome Norwegian word koselig, which means a sense of coziness. According to a Fast Company article, koselig is “like the best parts of Christmas, without all the stress. People light candles, light fires, drink warm beverages, and sit under fuzzy blankets.” And according to recent research by a Stanford […]

Research
Your Thanksgiving Dinner Is One Big Aphrodisiac!

Note from Em & Lo: We’re not 100 percent sold on the scientific validity of everything in this article from our friends at YourTango, but we’re all for anything that helps justify stuffing your face on Thanksgiving!  That’s right: what happens at the Thanksgiving table has been proven to get the blood flowing, and we’re not […]

Advice
The 4 Motives of Pick-Up Artistry

The following is part of a series on pickup artistry by longtime reader and contributor Johnny: When I first looked into PU – not the game, but the actual real-time community – I was surprised at its positivity. If it had been full of anger or misogyny I would have been turned right off by […]

How To
The 5 Necessary Steps for Getting a Pickup Artist to Commit

The following is part of a series on pickup artistry by longtime reader and contributor Johnny: If you really like someone you suspect is a pickup artist – and that’s a decision you may re-evaluate now that I’ve lifted the veil for you – here’s what it takes for a woman to lock down a PUA: […]

How To
5 Signs You’re Dating a Pickup Artist

You’re a straight woman, and you like this guy. You have fun, you have chemistry, and then you have sex. At which point, he seems to disappear. But not totally. Sound familiar? Chances are he’s read the Pick Up Artist lit and is following it to a T. Below, read up on the 5 tell-tale […]

How To
5 Ideas for a Grownup Games Night with Your Partner

photo via flickr Who says games nights are just for bored kids and drunken singles hoping for a threeway? There’s no reason why committed monogamists shouldn’t have some fun, too. Here are five D.I.Y. ideas for playing together… it’s like foreplay, except with dice!   1. Spin the Sex Manual  >Grab a couple pairs of […]

How To
Why You Should Ditch Tinder and Give Out Your Number Instead

photo via flickr We’re normally pretty skeptical of the click-baity headlines in Men’s Health magazine. 4 Week Fat Shredder! 12 Scientific Ways to Look Smarter! How Listening to Your Mom Can Make You Fat! But we really loved the recent article by David Amsden, called “Give Her Your Number.” (Amsden is the author of the […]

Wise Guys
Wise Guys: How Can Women Pick Up Men in Bars?

photo via flickr Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: What are the best ways for a woman to pick up a man in a bar? Gay Single Guy (Daniel): Well, what kind of bar is it? If it’s a sports bar, talk about the game of course! I’m […]

How To
36 Questions to Ask a Date Instead of Playing Mind Games

photo via flickr Dating is so mired in game-playing and pickup moves these days that it’s amazing anyone ever ends up finding lasting love. So we’re huge fans of any approach that manages to cut through all that B.S. For example, many years ago — before we each found lasting love, against those game-playing odds […]

How To
9 No-Duh Sex Moves Men Should Brush Up On

by Eden Strong for YourTango  |  photo via WeHeartIt Your sex life might be good but aren’t there always a few things that could make it, well, better? Quick answer: YES. How do I know? Over a glass of wine (or several), I flat out asked my friends if their sex life was everything they wanted it […]

Confessions
What Catcalling Would Look Like If We Used It at the Office

This week, EMandLO.com all-star commenter Johnny made an excellent point by comparing catcalling to other kinds of human communication — say, attempting to get hired at a new company: I had a lengthy argument about catcalling on a pickup website. Their stance was, “Feminism continues to demonize male sexuality, and saying ‘hey beautiful’ isn’t harassment.” […]

How To
Straight Guys: How to Respond to Being Hit On by a Woman

photo via Flickr A note to straight men: We’re constantly hearing you guys complain that you still have to do almost all of the pick-up leg-work. But then when a woman does attempt to hit on you in a bar, a lot of you turn around and call her “desperate” — even in 2014! (Er, […]

Polls
Poll: Is the Gym Off-Limits as a Pick-Up Spot?

photo via Flickr Recently, Johnny, one of our most loyal commenters, posted the following in response to our Blog Snog partner’s article “Guys of Reddit share the cheesy pickup lines that actually kind of work“: The lesson behind those corny pickup lines is that women like an outgoing guy. It’s not the lines that worked […]

Dear Em & Lo
Your Call: Does the “Pass the Underwear” Trick Really Work?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader.  The reader below wants to know how to give her boyfriend the best Thanksgiving ever. Leave your suggestions in the comments section below.  […]

How To
Top 10 Striptease Tips

The traditional striptease is not for everyone: some consider it the ultimate display of female sexual power, reducing male viewers to quivering bowls of jelly, while others find it embarrassing or even demeaning. One thing’s for sure: many a man truly enjoys the visual, so an erotic dance can be a generous gift. This is […]

How To
The 10 Archetypes of Sex

Since we’ve been writing for the new community site ArchetypeMe, which tailors content and products to individual personalities, we had the pleasure of helping them out with their new ArcheGuide on Bedroom Tips. It’s a five-part series which gives specific sexual advice for each of the ten archetypes. (After all, Rebels aren’t the only ones […]