Seduction
Your Call: How Can I Talk Dirty?

photo via flickr We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call by leaving your advice in the comments section below: Dear Em & […]

Your Call: How Can I Seduce My Boyfriend?

vintage album cover via Flickr We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call by leaving your advice in the comments section below: Dear […]

Wise Guys: Is There Such a Thing as Harmless Flirtation?

photo via Flickr Advice from three of our guy friends. This week a woman asks, “Is there such a thing as harmless flirtation? When does it cross the line? Is the line different for men and women?” Straight Married Guy (Ben): Sure – there are plenty of harmless flirtations. Most flirtations, I think, are harmless. […]

Dream Interpretation: A Friend Kisses Me in My Sleep

photo via Flickr Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. This week, a reader asks Lauri: So I had a dream about sleeping: somehow a longtime classmate/friend kissed me on the lips and we both just […]

Dream Interpretation: I’m Wooed, Kissed and Betrayed on Stage

photo via Flickr Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. This week, a reader asks Lauri: Some background: There’s this guy that goes to the same college as me. For the longest time he never showed […]

Redefining Foreplay

photo via Flickr Foreplay is not an obligatory two minutes of making out, it’s not purely physical, it’s not a routine that automatically earns you intercourse, it’s not just for women, and it doesn’t always have to be candle-lit (though florescent overhead lights are never seductive). The idea is to free foreplay it’s traditionally narrow definition. […]

Top 10 Do’s and Don’ts of Sensual Massage

Massage as foreplay is one of those sex tips that “everyone knows” — but few people know well. Be honest, how many times have you actually massaged your partner for longer than a few minutes of shoulder squeezing in front of the TV, or a half-hearted swish over their back with your palms? Anything more […]

5 Ways to Practice Mindfulness in the Bedroom

photo by Daniel Sandoval We met Wendy Strgar, founder of the company Good Clean Love, at a conference in Vegas (as one does) a few years back and were instant fans. Good Clean Love makes organic love products — for example, lubes that actually smell good, and aren’t packed with nasty artificial sugars (which can […]

Wise Guys: How Can I Get Him to Be More Romantic?

photo by Albany Tim Advice from three of EMandLO.com’s guy friends. This week they answer the following: “How can I get him to be more romantic?” To ask the guys your own question, click here. Straight Married Guy (Irad Eyal): The secret I’m about to reveal is guaranteed to make a guy more romantic. It […]

Confession: The Top 10 Sexy Things I Find Unsexy

Our contributor Abby Spector, who is majoring in Feminine/Gender/Sexuality Studies at Wesleyan University, confesses which traditionally “sexy” things she finds absolutely unsexy: Passivity. Women often mistake having an opinion for being bitchy, and so opt for submissiveness. But life’s better when it’s real, so speak up and be honest. There’s nothing wrong with taking the […]