Seduction
Dear Em & Lo
Dear Em & Lo: How Do I Go from “Friends” to More?

Get Personal Advice Publicly on EMandLO.comTry Our New *PRIVATE* Advice Service! Dear Em & Lo, I’ve known this girl “Ashley” since high school band eight years ago. We instantly hit it off as friends the day we met because of our mutual liking of illegal substances. I know it’s cliche, but I’ve had a crush […]

Dear Em & Lo
Your Call: How Can I Talk to Men Without It Being About Sex?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section.  Dear Em & Lo, How can I have […]

Wise Guys
Wise Guys: What Makes Someone Approachable?

photo via Flickr Advice from three of EMandLO.com’s guy friends. This week they answer the following: “If we’re talking about guys making a move on a stranger, what makes someone approachable?” To ask the guys your own question, click here. Married Bisexual Guy (Bryan Sebeck): As somebody who’s spent a decent amount of time giving advice to guys who want […]

Do It Tonight
Do It Tonight: Banish Your Phone

photo via flickr In an interview on Fresh Air last week, Sherry Turkle, author of the new book Alone Together: Why We Expect More From Technology and Less from Each Other, discussed people’s emotional dependence on digital devices. Her theory is that people are not making the important emotional connections with people that they need, […]

Wise Guys
Wise Guys: Are Men Romantic Or Do They Just Fake It?

photo via Flickr Advice from three of EMandLO.com’s guy friends. This week they answer the following: “Are most men romantics, or is romance something guys simply do to keep their partner happy?” To ask the guys your own question, click here. Single Straight Guy (Scott Phrenetik): I think the majority of men are not inherently romantic. But, is it […]

Research
Pickup Artist Training Will Make You Feel Bad About Yourself

Here’s the dirty little secret of pickup artist training: it actually works (for both men and women), but it may well make you feel like shit about yourself. Maybe you don’t care. Maybe you just want the digits. But just in case you want to get laid and feel like a better person, you might […]

Pop Culture
Top 10 Pickup Lines for 2012

Most of the contributions to the recent Twitter hashtag #2012PickUpLines were pretty uninspiring. (Exhibit A: “I’d like to buy a new router for you and your friend. And ‘Route Her’ and yourself into my bedroom tonight.” Er, okay, Beavis.) But we were inspired by Rainn Wilson (@rainnwilson) of THE OFFICE, who tweeted, “Can I piggy-back […]

Personal Essays
7 Ways to Turn Yourself On

EMandLO.com contributor Jewely Hoxie, who is studying Human Sexuality at the University of California Santa Cruz — you can read her blog here — has a confession to make: I’ll admit it — most of these suggestions will probably resonate more with the ladies than the gents. After all, guys don’t tend to need much […]

Research
What Your Outfit Color Means on the Pick-Up Scene

photo via flickr A recent study published in the Journal of Experimental Social Psychology looked at why men are more attracted to women who wear red — because, according to earlier studies (not to mention the lyrics of one Chris DeBurgh), men sit closer to ladies in red and ask them more intimate questions. Well, […]

Personal Essays
5 Less Obvious Places to Touch Each Other

photo via flickr EMandLO.com contributor Jewely Hoxie, who is studying Human Sexuality at the University of California Santa Cruz — you can read her blog here — has a confession to make: There are some perks to being a Human Sexuality major — and I’m not just talking about its potential as a pick-up line. […]