Seduction
Research
What Your Outfit Color Means on the Pick-Up Scene

photo via flickr A recent study published in the Journal of Experimental Social Psychology looked at why men are more attracted to women who wear red — because, according to earlier studies (not to mention the lyrics of one Chris DeBurgh), men sit closer to ladies in red and ask them more intimate questions. Well, […]

Personal Essays
5 Less Obvious Places to Touch Each Other

photo via flickr EMandLO.com contributor Jewely Hoxie, who is studying Human Sexuality at the University of California Santa Cruz — you can read her blog here — has a confession to make: There are some perks to being a Human Sexuality major — and I’m not just talking about its potential as a pick-up line. […]

Pop Culture
The Obvious Player vs. the Faux-Sensitive Guy

photo via flickr Sexuality educator Charlie Glickman, who runs the education programs at Good Vibrations (in other words, he’s got serious Sensitive Guy chops), recently published an article on his blog called “Confessions of a Former Sensitive New Age Guy.” He consciously chose to become a S.N.A.G. back in college, and his motives were initially […]

Wise Guys
Our New Wise Guys Advise Women on How to Ask Men Out (Part 2 of 2)

photo via Flickr A few new men have joined the ranks of our Wise Guys! They’ve all answered the following question: “What’s the best way for a woman to ask a guy out?” Half of them gave their answers last week; meet the rest of them below: Single Bisexual Guy (Jack):The best answer to this […]

Wise Guys
Our New Wise Guys Advise Women on How to Ask Men Out (Part 1 of 2)

photo via Flickr A few new men have joined the ranks of our Wise Guys! They’ve all answered the following question: “What’s the best way for a woman to ask a guy out?” Meet half of them below, then tune in next Tuesday to meet the rest! Married Bisexual Guy (Bryan Sebeck): It’s not as […]

Pop Culture
The Speedo Makes a Comeback

If you’ve ever rolled your eyes at that iconic image of the bikini-clad woman sudsing up a muscle car or rollerskating along the boardwalk, then have we got two videos for you. First, the high budget one: LMFAO’s “I’m Sexy and I Know It.” As our writer friend Grant Stoddard recently put it in a Facebook post, […]

Your Call
Your Call: How Can I Talk Dirty?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section.  Dear Em & Lo, I have a younger […]

Dear Em & Lo
Your Call: How Can I Seduce My Boyfriend?

vintage album cover via Flickr We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call by leaving your advice in the comments section below: Dear […]

Wise Guys
Wise Guys: Is There Such a Thing as Harmless Flirtation?

photo via Flickr Advice from three of our guy friends. This week a woman asks, “Is there such a thing as harmless flirtation? When does it cross the line? Is the line different for men and women?” Straight Married Guy (Ben): Sure – there are plenty of harmless flirtations. Most flirtations, I think, are harmless. […]

Dream Interpretation
Dream Interpretation: A Friend Kisses Me in My Sleep

photo via Flickr Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. This week, a reader asks Lauri: So I had a dream about sleeping: somehow a longtime classmate/friend kissed me on the lips and we both just […]

Dream Interpretation
Dream Interpretation: I’m Wooed, Kissed and Betrayed on Stage

photo via Flickr Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. This week, a reader asks Lauri: Some background: There’s this guy that goes to the same college as me. For the longest time he never showed […]

How To
Redefining Foreplay

Foreplay is not an obligatory two minutes of making out, it’s not purely physical, it’s not a routine that automatically earns you intercourse, it’s not just for women, and it doesn’t always have to be candle-lit (though florescent overhead lights are never seductive). The idea is to free foreplay it’s traditionally narrow definition. Think of it […]

How To
Top 10 Do’s and Don’ts of Sensual Massage

Massage as foreplay is one of those sex tips that “everyone knows” — but few people know well. Be honest, how many times have you actually massaged your partner for longer than a few minutes of shoulder squeezing in front of the TV, or a half-hearted swish over their back with your palms? Anything more […]

Books
5 Ways to Practice Mindfulness in the Bedroom

photo by Daniel Sandoval We met Wendy Strgar, founder of the company Good Clean Love, at a conference in Vegas (as one does) a few years back and were instant fans. Good Clean Love makes organic love products — for example, lubes that actually smell good, and aren’t packed with nasty artificial sugars (which can […]

Wise Guys
Wise Guys: How Can I Get Him to Be More Romantic?

Advice from three of EMandLO.com’s guy friends. This week they answer the following: “How can I get him to be more romantic?” To ask the guys your own question, click here. Straight Married Guy (Irad Eyal): The secret I’m about to reveal is guaranteed to make a guy more romantic. It also works if you […]

Personal Essays
Confession: The Top 10 Sexy Things I Find Unsexy

Our contributor Abby Spector, who is majoring in Feminine/Gender/Sexuality Studies at Wesleyan University, confesses which traditionally “sexy” things she finds absolutely unsexy: Passivity. Women often mistake having an opinion for being bitchy, and so opt for submissiveness. But life’s better when it’s real, so speak up and be honest. There’s nothing wrong with taking the […]