Seduction
How To
How to Pull Off a Cheesy Pickup Line

photo by rick As a general rule, the only pickup line we officially endorse is “Hi, my name is [your name here].” You can then embellish this intro with a situation-specific line such as “Can I buy you a drink?” or “Would you like to dance?” or “Please, go ahead of me, I actually enjoy […]

Confessions
Comments of the Week: Learn to Dance, Men!

photo by tauress We were expecting most of the advice for the “Your Call” post about a guy who doesn’t like it when his girlfriend dances with other guys to focus on jealousy and insecurity issues. But instead you surprised us with some awesome practical advice on taking dance lessons… Why aren’t YOU dancing with […]

Dear Em & Lo
Your Call: How to Seduce a Woman

We recently published a post on this site called “7 Ways to Seduce a Straight Guy.” And a bunch of you wrote in saying, okay, now tell us how to seduce a woman! So we’re turning this one over to you: Tell us, what’s the best way seduce a woman? FYI, the tips in the […]

How To
7 Ways to Seduce a Straight Guy

photo by Ezyan Y. Let’s face it: seducing guys ain’t that hard. A little cleavage and some footsie is pretty much all it takes. The challenge is making your moves really memorable. What follows are seven classic approaches to seduction that you can make your own — and have fun doing it. The Detective: It’s […]

Books
How Not to Kiss Like a Zombie and Other Helpful Kissing Tips

photo by pedrosimoes7 Violet Blue has written about a zillion books on the subject of sex, but finally there’s one you can discuss with your grandmother: Seal It with a Kiss: Tips, Tricks, and Techniques for Delivering the Knockout Kiss. Seeing as the national smooch holiday is almost upon us, we thought we’d check in […]

How To
How to Buy (or Accept) a Drink

photo by Southern_Foodways_Alliance Sending a hottie a drink is an old stand-by among pick-up artists. However, this move may be interpreted as “cheesy” rather than “kitschy” in certain irony-free zones — Idaho, perhaps, or Long Island — or by women who are frequently sent “Slippery Nipples.” Thus, we can only recommend this maneuver in good […]

Pop Culture
What’s Your Favorite Music to Screw to?

Our Top 100 Breakup Songs post continues to be such a favorite on our site that we decided to call on you for more musical suggestions: This time your favorite songs and/or albums to have sex to. Leave your suggestions in the comments section below, and be sure to tell us what kind of sex […]

Personal Essays
Confession: I’m an Expert Sexter

photo by CoreForce Our contributor is a junior in college. And that’s all she’s willing to say. Except this… Sexting, for the uninitiated, involves sending texts that are sexual in nature. These can range from straightforward (e.g. “I want to fuck you right now”) to graphically descriptive (use your imagination). And, if you’re brave — or, […]

How To
Econ 101 for the Pickup Scene

image from nDevilTV Economies of Scale is a “theory of seduction” positing that the more you put yourself out there, the better you’ll do. Duh, you say. But, like the greatest economic theories, it gets better as you unpack it. Say you spy the woman/man of your dreams sipping a green-tea latte at the Soy […]

Research
Study: Housework Increases Sex No Matter Who Mops

photo from Porn for Women It’s long been a given in the sex advice biz that dudes who break out the vacuum cleaner every once in a while are more likely to get laid. We typically fight such Men-are-from-Mars-Women-are-from-Venus stereotypes, but we’ve heard too much anecdotal evidence to ignore this one. It’s not that watching […]

How To
10 Rules of the Pickup

photo by ezioman It’s not easy to be yourself when attempting a pick-up. But the more out-of-character you try to be, the worse it’s going to go. The goal is to get someone to like you for you. That said, certain things should never be said or done during a pick-up, no matter how “naturally” […]

Wise Guys
Wise Guys: Why Do Men Cat-Call?

photo by bobster855 Advice from three of our guy friends. This week, they answer the following: Why do men cat-call? Straight Married Guy (Figleaf): Oh boy, where did I just see a link to a TV clip of a woman walking up to men who cat-called her and asked them why?  (You can answer in […]

Wise Guys
Wise Guys: How Should a Woman Pick Up a Man in a Bar?

Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: What are the best ways for a woman to pick up a man in a bar? Gay Single Guy (Daniel): Well, what kind of bar is it? If it’s a sports bar, talk about the game of course! I’m going out on […]

Research
Study: The Car Doesn’t Maketh the Man

photo by Qole_Pejorian In news that will probably be surprising only to the male readers of this site, a recent study found that expensive cars don’t really impress the ladies. Researchers in Australia measured changes in the brain responses of women toward a range of men in different cars. Turns out a man having a […]

Wise Guys
Wise Guys: What's a Guy-Friendly Date?

photo by ClevelandSGS Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: What is a guy-friendly date? Gay Engaged Guy (Joel Derfner, author of Swish): Seriously?  Anything that doesn’t involve talking about feelings. Straight Married Guy (Fred): If he’s into you, anything is a guy-friendly date.  Okay, maybe not ballroom dancing […]

How To
Top 10 Striptease Tips

The traditional striptease is not for everyone: some consider it the ultimate display of female sexual power, reducing male viewers to quivering bowls of jelly, while others find it embarrassing or even demeaning. One thing’s for sure: many a man truly enjoys the visual, so an erotic dance can be a generous gift. This is […]