Seduction
Personal Essays
Confession: The Top 10 Sexy Things I Find Unsexy

Our contributor Abby Spector, who is majoring in Feminine/Gender/Sexuality Studies at Wesleyan University, confesses which traditionally “sexy” things she finds absolutely unsexy: Passivity. Women often mistake having an opinion for being bitchy, and so opt for submissiveness. But life’s better when it’s real, so speak up and be honest. There’s nothing wrong with taking the […]

Confessions
Comment of the Week: You Can Leave Your Socks On

photo by David_and_Katarina Re: Your advice to remove your socks before sex: Not if you’re doing me! I looove it when he leaves his socks on: It’s intimate, sweet cute and kinda says: “I want you so bad I can’t really care about my stupid socks!” Yeah, definitely keep your socks on. — matbo, responding […]

Confessions
Comment of the Week: How to Treat Her on Valentine’s Day

Sioux, responding to the post “Your Call: What Should He Do for Valentine’s Day?”: Step 1: Bake something involved. I’m being serious. Find a recipe for something fancy, delicious, and sweet that you think would suit her taste. Does she like dark chocolate? Make truffles. Cupcakes? Find an interesting recipe and make a go for […]

How To
How to Reject Someone Nicely

photo by Brujita Attention is always flattering, but it’s not always reciprocated — blame it on nose hair, pleated pants, wrong gender, that mysterious “chemistry,” etc. While it’s not fair to lead someone on by giving them a fake number (so mean!) or one of those commercial rejection lines (even meaner!), there is such a […]

How To
How to Pull Off a Cheesy Pickup Line

photo by rick As a general rule, the only pickup line we officially endorse is “Hi, my name is [your name here].” You can then embellish this intro with a situation-specific line such as “Can I buy you a drink?” or “Would you like to dance?” or “Please, go ahead of me, I actually enjoy […]

Confessions
Comments of the Week: Learn to Dance, Men!

photo by tauress We were expecting most of the advice for the “Your Call” post about a guy who doesn’t like it when his girlfriend dances with other guys to focus on jealousy and insecurity issues. But instead you surprised us with some awesome practical advice on taking dance lessons… Why aren’t YOU dancing with […]

Dear Em & Lo
Your Call: How to Seduce a Woman

We recently published a post on this site called “7 Ways to Seduce a Straight Guy.” And a bunch of you wrote in saying, okay, now tell us how to seduce a woman! So we’re turning this one over to you: Tell us, what’s the best way seduce a woman? FYI, the tips in the […]

How To
7 Ways to Seduce a Straight Guy

photo by Ezyan Y. Let’s face it: seducing guys ain’t that hard. A little cleavage and some footsie is pretty much all it takes. The challenge is making your moves really memorable. What follows are seven classic approaches to seduction that you can make your own — and have fun doing it. The Detective: It’s […]

Books
How Not to Kiss Like a Zombie and Other Helpful Kissing Tips

photo by pedrosimoes7 Violet Blue has written about a zillion books on the subject of sex, but finally there’s one you can discuss with your grandmother: Seal It with a Kiss: Tips, Tricks, and Techniques for Delivering the Knockout Kiss. Seeing as the national smooch holiday is almost upon us, we thought we’d check in […]

How To
How to Buy (or Accept) a Drink

photo by Southern_Foodways_Alliance Sending a hottie a drink is an old stand-by among pick-up artists. However, this move may be interpreted as “cheesy” rather than “kitschy” in certain irony-free zones — Idaho, perhaps, or Long Island — or by women who are frequently sent “Slippery Nipples.” Thus, we can only recommend this maneuver in good […]

Pop Culture
What’s Your Favorite Music to Screw to?

Our Top 100 Breakup Songs post continues to be such a favorite on our site that we decided to call on you for more musical suggestions: This time your favorite songs and/or albums to have sex to. Leave your suggestions in the comments section below, and be sure to tell us what kind of sex […]

Personal Essays
Confession: I’m an Expert Sexter

photo by CoreForce Our contributor is a junior in college. And that’s all she’s willing to say. Except this… Sexting, for the uninitiated, involves sending texts that are sexual in nature. These can range from straightforward (e.g. “I want to fuck you right now”) to graphically descriptive (use your imagination). And, if you’re brave — or, […]

How To
Econ 101 for the Pickup Scene

image from nDevilTV Economies of Scale is a “theory of seduction” positing that the more you put yourself out there, the better you’ll do. Duh, you say. But, like the greatest economic theories, it gets better as you unpack it. Say you spy the woman/man of your dreams sipping a green-tea latte at the Soy […]

Research
Study: Housework Increases Sex No Matter Who Mops

photo from Porn for Women It’s long been a given in the sex advice biz that dudes who break out the vacuum cleaner every once in a while are more likely to get laid. We typically fight such Men-are-from-Mars-Women-are-from-Venus stereotypes, but we’ve heard too much anecdotal evidence to ignore this one. It’s not that watching […]

How To
10 Rules of the Pickup

photo by ezioman It’s not easy to be yourself when attempting a pick-up. But the more out-of-character you try to be, the worse it’s going to go. The goal is to get someone to like you for you. That said, certain things should never be said or done during a pick-up, no matter how “naturally” […]

Wise Guys
Wise Guys: Why Do Men Cat-Call?

photo by bobster855 Advice from three of our guy friends. This week, they answer the following: Why do men cat-call? Straight Married Guy (Figleaf): Oh boy, where did I just see a link to a TV clip of a woman walking up to men who cat-called her and asked them why?  (You can answer in […]