Seduction
Wise Guys
Wise Guys: How Should a Woman Pick Up a Man in a Bar?

Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: What are the best ways for a woman to pick up a man in a bar? Gay Single Guy (Daniel): Well, what kind of bar is it? If it’s a sports bar, talk about the game of course! I’m going out on […]

Research
Study: The Car Doesn’t Maketh the Man

photo by Qole_Pejorian In news that will probably be surprising only to the male readers of this site, a recent study found that expensive cars don’t really impress the ladies. Researchers in Australia measured changes in the brain responses of women toward a range of men in different cars. Turns out a man having a […]

Wise Guys
Wise Guys: What's a Guy-Friendly Date?

photo by ClevelandSGS Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: What is a guy-friendly date? Gay Engaged Guy (Joel Derfner, author of Swish): Seriously?  Anything that doesn’t involve talking about feelings. Straight Married Guy (Fred): If he’s into you, anything is a guy-friendly date.  Okay, maybe not ballroom dancing […]

How To
Top 10 Striptease Tips

The traditional striptease is not for everyone: some consider it the ultimate display of female sexual power, reducing male viewers to quivering bowls of jelly, while others find it embarrassing or even demeaning. One thing’s for sure: many a man truly enjoys the visual, so an erotic dance can be a generous gift. This is […]

Advice
11 Tried-and-Tested, Situation-Specific Pickup Lines

photo by specialkrb Okay, so maybe we haven’t actually met someone who’s tried out the Kashi line in the grocery store. And we can’t guarantee that everyone will find kegel jokes as funny as we do. But the jukebox is a slam-dunk. These icebreakers might just make for more natural segues into a fully-fledged pick-up. […]

News
"Classy Professionals" Seek Wingwomen for $35/Hour

photo by colorcritical Let’s say you’ve got enough disposable income — even in the middle of a recession — to call yourself a “classy professional” who drinks in “upscale bars.” And let’s say that — despite the recession — all this disposable income doesn’t seem to be working on the ladies like you’d hoped it […]

Pop Culture
Andrew Trees on Decoding Love

photo via Decoding Love.com If your Magic 8 Ball is a less-than-reliable dating guide, then author Andrew Trees has a better idea: Why not turn to the latest studies in economics, neurochemistry and game theory instead? We chatted with him about his latest book, Decoding Love: Why It Takes Twelve Frogs to Find a Prince […]

Do It Tonight
Do It Tonight! What to Say Next If Your Pick-up Line Actually Works

photo by hmk If your pick-up line — whether it’s “Hi my name is Pat” or “How much does a polar bear weigh? Enough to break the ice!” — actually turns into a conversation, don’t assume you’re on the home stretch. Nope, you could still screw things up royally. Like talking about the weather, for […]

Do It Tonight
Do It Tonight! Mix Up the Pick Up

photo by Andre Natta A note to straight men: We’re constantly hearing you guys complain that you have to do all the pick-up leg-work. But then when a woman does attempt to hit on you in a bar, you turn around and call her “desperate.” (Er, who made off with your self-esteem, anyway?) Admittedly, you […]

Do It Tonight
Do It Tonight! Seduce Yourself

photo by strelitzia We know that masturbation feels like an easy lay, but just because you’re a sure thing, doesn’t mean you always have to treat yourself that way. Ladies: Light some candles, dim the lights, take a long bath (with a dirty Ducky, perhaps), pour yourself a glass of wine, moisturize your entire body, […]

Dear Em & Lo
Dear Em & Lo: How Great Should First-Time Sex with a New Partner Be?

photo by carulmare Dear Em and Lo, I was married for 20 years and now I am not. I’m not crying in my soup (is that the term?). I’ve learned a lot about what makes for a crappy relationship and bad sex. And, thanks in large part to your articles and website, I have gained […]

Videos
S Is for Seduction

From our book “REC SEX: An A-Z Guide to Hooking Up.”