Single Life
How to Live a Complete Life Without Sex

photo via WeHeartIt Dear Em & Lo, I’m 34 and I’ve never had a boyfriend. I was molested as a child and raped as an adult. I’ve never had consensual sex. Yet I have intensely sexual dreams. I’ve had years of counseling, but the fear of having a sexual relationship remains. I isolate myself from […]

The 10 Saddest Things About Being Single

by Shireen Dadkhah for YourTango.com  |  photo via flickr Trust me, you don’t understand what it means to be lonely. For as long as I can remember, I’ve watched my friends pair off. Temporarily and fleetingly in high school, longer and more lasting in college, and now, permanently. Throughout it all, I’ve remained single. Too […]

Dear Em & Lo: I’m 21 and Tired Of Being Single

Submit Your Own Question to EMandLO.comTry Our New *PRIVATE* Advice Service!   Dear Em & Lo, I am 21 years old. I am currently single and not dating anyone. I have only been in love once in my life, but unfortunately the relationship did not work out. It’s frustrating being the single one in my […]

Your Call: How Can I Talk to Men Without It Being About Sex?

photo by Tjook We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section.  Submit Your Own Question to […]

The 25 Rules of the Booty Call

Most people don’t talk about booty calls. That’s part of their appeal: “We don’t have to endlessly com-mu-ni-cate because we’re not in a serious relationship.” People rely on a tacit understanding when it comes to casual sex with their friends and neighbors, and especially their exes. But it’s silly to assume that everyone “understands” the […]

Confession: Top 10 Date Activities I Enjoy Solo

photo by paulisnat (nudity not required for most solo date activities) Our contributor Abby Spector, who is majoring in Feminine/Gender/Sexuality Studies at Wesleyan University, confesses her love for the table for one: People are impressed if you travel to Africa on your own, but if your solo adventuring is a tad less exotic, they tend […]

Reasons You’re Still Single

photo (not of the author, for the record) by MShades Mike Sacks is one fifth of the hilarious Association for the Betterment of Sex, the cabal behind the book Our Bodies, Our Junk, which we wrote about last year. So we weren’t surprised in the least to discover how much funny there is in Sacks’ […]

Will the Real Elena Kagan Please Stand Up?

Image by Charles Fettinger We have mixed feelings about Maureen Dowd: on the one hand she is a totally awesome butt-kicking columnist who can swing with the big boys while pointing out how many of them are actually just whiny little boys. But on the other hand, she seems to phone it in a lot […]