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10 Quick Ways to Spice Up Masturbation

We know that masturbation feels like an easy lay, but just because you’re a sure thing, doesn’t mean you always have to treat yourself that way. Here are 10 simple ways to spice up your old routine: Dim the overheads and light some candles Pour yourself a drink Take a long bath (with a nice […]

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Top 10 Things We Will Tell Our Sons About Sex

Remember how we said we accidentally bred on the same schedule and both have six-year-old daughters? Well, we weren’t kidding about that breeding schedule — we also each have three-year-old sons. So it’s only fair that, after publishing the Top 10 Things We’ll Tell Our Daughters About Sex, we should write a follow-up list for […]

TV
Top 10 Love Lessons from “The Bachelorette” (Andi’s Fantasy Suites)

We always look forward to the Fantasy Suite episodes — contestants get naked, both literally and figuratively, and shit gets real. The Bachelor or Bachelorette may or may not sleep with three hopefuls in three days — and it’s all made possible by the host-slash-pimp, Chris. Unless, of course, it’s Andi’s season, in which case […]

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The 10 Best “Sex” Photos from Getty Images (NSFW)

When you do a search for “sex” on Getty Images, you get a lot of interesting results — so many, in fact, that we were compelled to create a superlative series of Getty “sex” search images. Today’s installment highlights the ones that were just generally about sex (though they might make their way into some of our other, more […]

How To
Top 10 Things We Will Tell Our Daughters About Sex

The two of us accidentally bred on the same schedule, which means we both have six-year-old daughters. We have long joked about the hazards of being both sex writers and parents (and in a small town, too, no less): What will they say at the P.T.A.? What if our daughters stumble across one of our […]

How To
10 Ways to Sexify Your Gratitude Journal

photo via Flickr Everyone from Oprah to Real Simple to the guy at Harvard who teaches classes on happiness has talked about gratitude journals — you know, every night you write down, say, five things you were grateful for that day. Could be big things (my wonderful supportive family) or small (Honey Bunches of Oats […]

Dear Em & Lo
10 Steps to Crossing the Finishing Line in Bed Tonight

One of the most common questions we receive from women is, “How can I orgasm in bed with my partner?” We hear some version of this question at least once a week. The really demanding women want to know how to orgasm simultaneously during penetration, every time. If this is you, then sorry, you’re out […]

Pop Culture
Top 5 Love Lessons from The Bachelorette (Andi, Ep 1)

photo courtesy of ABC/Rick Rowell When on a date, follow the same rule of the writer: show, don’t tell. Do not say “I have a lot to offer” as your opening gambit. Prove it by being charming, smart, funny, compassionate and so on. Do not refer to your date as “ma’am” at any point, even […]

Movies
The Top 10 Love Lessons of “Sixteen Candles”

This week marks the 30th (!) anniversary of Sixteen Candles, one of the greatest teen movies of all time (right next to John Hughes’ other classic, The Breakfast Club). At a time when most high school/college movies were raunchy, sexist tales of young men’s pursuit of sexual conquests — think the Porky’s franchise, Losing It, The […]

Memes
Top 10 Male Celebrity Feminists Andrew Garfield Could Learn From

Emma Stone went viral this week when she called out her boyfriend, Andrew Garfield, for his casual sexism during a Q&A session promoting The Amazing Spider-Man 2. When a little boy asked Garfield how Spider-Man got his costume, he said: “He made it. He made it with his bare hands. He sewed it… It’s kind of […]