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The 10 Best “Sex” Photos from Getty Images (NSFW)

When you do a search for “sex” on Getty Images, you get a lot of interesting results — so many, in fact, that we were compelled to create a superlative series of Getty “sex” search images. Today’s installment highlights the ones that were just generally about sex (though they might make their way into some of our other, more […]

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Top 10 Things We Will Tell Our Daughters About Sex

The two of us accidentally bred on the same schedule, which means we both have six-year-old daughters. We have long joked about the hazards of being both sex writers and parents (and in a small town, too, no less): What will they say at the P.T.A.? What if our daughters stumble across one of our […]

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10 Ways to Sexify Your Gratitude Journal

photo via Flickr Everyone from Oprah to Real Simple to the guy at Harvard who teaches classes on happiness has talked about gratitude journals — you know, every night you write down, say, five things you were grateful for that day. Could be big things (my wonderful supportive family) or small (Honey Bunches of Oats […]

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10 Steps to Crossing the Finishing Line in Bed Tonight

One of the most common questions we receive from women is, “How can I orgasm in bed with my partner?” We hear some version of this question at least once a week. The really demanding women want to know how to orgasm simultaneously during penetration, every time. If this is you, then sorry, you’re out […]

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Top 5 Love Lessons from The Bachelorette (Andi, Ep 1)

photo courtesy of ABC/Rick Rowell When on a date, follow the same rule of the writer: show, don’t tell. Do not say “I have a lot to offer” as your opening gambit. Prove it by being charming, smart, funny, compassionate and so on. Do not refer to your date as “ma’am” at any point, even […]

The Top 10 Love Lessons of “Sixteen Candles”

This week marks the 30th (!) anniversary of Sixteen Candles, one of the greatest teen movies of all time (right next to John Hughes’ other classic, The Breakfast Club). At a time when most high school/college movies were raunchy, sexist tales of young men’s pursuit of sexual conquests — think the Porky’s franchise, Losing It, The […]

Top 10 Male Celebrity Feminists Andrew Garfield Could Learn From

Emma Stone went viral this week when she called out her boyfriend, Andrew Garfield, for his casual sexism during a Q&A session promoting The Amazing Spider-Man 2. When a little boy asked Garfield how Spider-Man got his costume, he said: “He made it. He made it with his bare hands. He sewed it… It’s kind of […]

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The Best (Most Affordable) Valentine’s Day Present You Can Give

Here are the top 10 reasons why our award-winning book 150 Shades of Play: A Beginner’s Guide to Kink — now also available in a discreet Kindle edition! — makes the best Valentine’s Day present: It gives you the great excuse to try something new in the bedroom — perfect for longterm couples on Valentine’s Day. It […]

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10 Thoughts on The Wolf of Wall Street

photo via IMDB 1. Not since Requiem for a Dream have drugs looked so unfun. 2. This was billed as a black comedy. Which part was supposed to be funny, again? 3. Okay, so the part where Jonah Hill whips out his (prosthetic) dong in the middle of a party and starts jacking off to […]

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Top 5 Kinds of “Porn” That Should Exist (If They Don’t Already)

Real estate porn, food porn, weather porn, disaster porn, gastro-porn, travel porn… doesn’t anyone watch plain ol’ porn anymore? According to the Oxford English Dictionary, this use of the term porn denotes “written or visual material that emphasizes the sensuous or sensational aspects of a non-sexual subject, appealing to its audience in a manner likened […]