Dear Em & Lo
Help: My Inability to Orgasm Is Ruining My Relationship

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section.  Dear Em & Lo, I’ve been dating my […]

PINO: The 1st Pleasure Product Exclusively for…Bankers?

sponsored post Okay, it’s actually a gift set for men, but our friends over at LELO decided to have a little fun with the marketing, explaining that the banking angle “gave us the opportunity to come up with loads of banking puns: Deposit; Hostile takeover; Double dip; Sperm bank; The Ultimate Stimulus Package…” So what’s the […]

How To
How to Choose Your Very First Vibrator

LELO’s Nea vibrator So you’re ready to purchase your very own My First Vibrator? Good for you! And you came to the right place, because yours truly, Em & Lo, happen to be your very personal shoppers. Exploring on your own is the best way to start learning the pattern of your sexual response — […]

Win the World’s First Ever Right-Handed Vibrator

sponsored post Are you left or right-handed? You probably already knew that your answer affects your creativity, intelligence, and odds of becoming President — but did you know it can also affect how much you enjoy sex? New research out of Sweden shows that left-handed people are up to 86% more sexually satisfied than their […]

Last Chance to Haiku Your Way to a Lelo ORA!

sponsored post *** THIS CONTEST IS NOW CLOSED *** The deadline for our LELO Ora haiku contest is end of day Friday, January 31st — a deadline specially chosen so that we can get the winner’s toy out before V-Day! So here’s your last chance to wax lyrical about oral sex and win yourself or […]

Pop Culture
A New Book That Some People Don’t Want You to Read (Part 1)

a still from the video trailer of Happyland HAPPYLAND — by one of the coolest authors we know, J. ROBERT LENNON — is finally out! This is the novel that W. W. Norton pulled from production in 2005 over fears of libel, that Harper’s Magazine ran in serial (though heavily abridged)in the fall of 2006, […]

Comment of the Week: After 30 Years, She Used a Vibrator in Front of Me

Reader rda said the following in response to our post, “Do You Name Your Favorite Sex Toys?” We are truly impressed and inspired! I got to see my wife pleasure herself today for the first time all the way — with a new dildo vibrator we purchased. She started hesitantly but once she got into […]

IDA: The Coolest New Breakthrough in Couple’s Massager Technology

We’re big fans of the Swedish pleasure object company LELO (and not just because they’re our dear sponsor) — we’ve never met a toy of theirs we didn’t like! But their brand new couple’s massager just might take the cake. IDA is the world’s first couple’s massager that ROTATES. Of course the whole thing vibrates, […]

Contest Reminder: Tell Us About Committed Sex & Win a Liv2!

sponsored post ** THIS CONTEST IS NOW CLOSED! CHECK OUT THE WINNING ENTRIES HERE. ** Don’t forget to check out our latest contest: All you have to do is tell us your favorite thing about committed sex (as opposed to, say, casual sex or first-time sex or new sex or ex sex or breakup sex), and you will […]

How Do You Love Committed Sex? Tell Us the Ways & Win a LIV2!

** THIS CONTEST IS NOW CLOSED! CHECK OUT THE WINNING ENTRIES HERE. ** Fall is just around the corner, which makes us think of people coupling up and finding someone to get cozy with in time for the cooler seasons. So, we want you to tell us your favorite thing about committed sex (as opposed […]