Pop Culture
Losing It: How We Popped Our Cherry Over the Last 80 Years

Author Kate Monro has managed to make us jealous of her job: searching the world for first-time tales that don’t often get told. In her new book, “Losing It: How We Popped Our Cherry Over the Past 80 Years,” she picks up where Nancy Friday left off, letting a wide range of people — from a 90-year-old […]

Comment of the Week: Give Virgins a Break!

Reader Jane said the following in response to our post, “Your Call: What’s the Best Way to Tell a Guy I’m a Virgin?” If a girl is a virgin at a certain age, 20, 25, 30 etc… and she is with a guy, in a new relationship, and WANTS to have sex with him… why […]

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Dear Em & Lo: How Do I Tell a Guy How Inexperienced I Am?

photo by Balakov Hey Em & Lo, I’m currently 26 and, yep, a virgin. I haven’t been “saving myself” and have no reason for this phenomenon other than I’ve never had the opportunity! (I had low self-esteem in high school, I was involved with theatre in college and all my crushes were gay in college, […]

Comment of the Week (OR Has the Smartest Readers!)

We feel honored, lucky and humble that some very smart readers and writers choose as their place to intelligently discuss and debate issues of sexuality and culture. Exhibit A: The comments section of last week’s Comment of the Week, which was a response to the post “Your Call – How Long Can a Virgin Make […]

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Dear Em & Lo: I’m a Man, Should I Shave Down There?

photo via flickr Get Personal Advice Publicly on EMandLO.comTry Our New *PRIVATE* Advice Service! Dear Em & Lo, I came across your site as I am trying to prepare for  my wedding night and my first time with my wife. I know nowadays it’s normal for women to shave/wax around the vagina to look clean, […]

Comment of the Week: Just Say No to Arbitrary Time Limits on Sex!

photo via flickr For the record, when we pick a “Comment of the Week,” it’s not necessarily an indication that we agree with the poster. We’re not that narrow-minded, we swear! Sometimes we pick comments that make an interesting point, or comments we think will start an interesting debate, or comments that present an argument […]

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Dear Em & Lo: I’m a College Freshman Who’s Never Been Kissed

  Hi Em & Lo, So I’m a freshman in college and I have never dated before or even been kissed. Sometimes I really feel like I’m missing out. I’m pretty friendly, but is it bad that I still haven’t had a relationship yet? What should I do? Help! Sincerely, Never Been Kissed Dear N.B.K., […]

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Dear Em & Lo, Do I Have to Tell Him I’m a Virgin?

photo via flickr Get Personal Advice Publicly on EMandLO.comTry Our New *PRIVATE* Advice Service! Yesterday we answered a thirty-something virgin’s plea for help. Today, we tell her and this woman and virgins everywhere whether they should tell the first guy they’re going to have intercourse with that they’re still carrying their V-cards: Dear Em & […]

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Dear Em & Lo, I’m a Thirty-Something Virgin – Help!

photo via Flickr Get Personal Advice Publicly on EMandLO.comTry Our New *PRIVATE* Advice Service! Dear Em & Lo, I’ll get straight to it: I’m in my early thirties and I’m a virgin. Not really by choice. It’s just never happened. It’s gotten to the point where I’m so worried what potential dates (and even platonic […]

Personal Essays
Confession: I Lied About Being a Virgin

photo via flickr A female friend of ours, a recent college grad who wishes to remain anonymous, has a confession to make: When I got to college, I was still carrying around my V card in my back pocket. By then, I had read erotica, watched porn, masturbated, made out furiously with high school boyfriends, […]