Virginity
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Dear Em & Lo: I’m a College Freshman Who’s Never Been Kissed

  Hi Em & Lo, So I’m a freshman in college and I have never dated before or even been kissed. Sometimes I really feel like I’m missing out. I’m pretty friendly, but is it bad that I still haven’t had a relationship yet? What should I do? Help! Sincerely, Never Been Kissed Dear N.B.K., […]

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Dear Em & Lo, Do I Have to Tell Him I’m a Virgin?

photo via flickr Get Personal Advice Publicly on EMandLO.comTry Our New *PRIVATE* Advice Service! Yesterday we answered a thirty-something virgin’s plea for help. Today, we tell her and this woman and virgins everywhere whether they should tell the first guy they’re going to have intercourse with that they’re still carrying their V-cards: Dear Em & […]

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Dear Em & Lo, I’m a Thirty-Something Virgin – Help!

photo via Flickr Get Personal Advice Publicly on EMandLO.comTry Our New *PRIVATE* Advice Service! Dear Em & Lo, I’ll get straight to it: I’m in my early thirties and I’m a virgin. Not really by choice. It’s just never happened. It’s gotten to the point where I’m so worried what potential dates (and even platonic […]

Personal Essays
Confession: I Lied About Being a Virgin

photo via flickr A female friend of ours, a recent college grad who wishes to remain anonymous, has a confession to make: When I got to college, I was still carrying around my V card in my back pocket. By then, I had read erotica, watched porn, masturbated, made out furiously with high school boyfriends, […]

Pop Culture
A Documentary Film on Virginity Needs Some Lovin’

Theresa Shecter and the gals at Trixie Films are making a documentary called “How to Lose Your Virginity” — it’s goal is “to undo centuries of myths and contradictions around virginity, and to encourage an honest conversation with people navigating the confusing process of deciding when and why to become sexual.” Its subjects include a rock violinist, an Ivy League […]

Confessions
Comment of the Week: Vaginismus Is God’s Method of Population Control

Not every Comment of the Week is chosen for its thoughtfulness, insight and eloquence. No, sometimes we get a comment that is so insane and earnest and downright creepy, that we can’t help but highlight it, if for no other reason than its entertainment value. Sure, it might be a joke. Either way, it’ll make […]

Dear Em & Lo
Your Call: Where Should a Husband/Stepfather’s Loyalties Lie?

photo via Flickr We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. And frankly, this one is a doozie. Make your call by leaving your response in the comments section below. Dear […]

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Dear Em & Lo, How Far Should I Go to Keep a Guy?

Dear Em & Lo, I’m a young adult in a new relationship with a guy a year older than me. I have never done anything besides kiss with a guy, and I know that he is definitely not a virgin. I don’t think I am ready to do anything with him, and I know he […]

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Your Call: How Can She Jump-Start Her Sex Life?

photo via flickr We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call by leaving your response in the comments section below. Hi Em & Lo, For various reasons […]

TV
Car Crash Sex on TV

We recently ran a post on EMandLO.com about television shows with hot sex scenes, but if we’re being honest, the stuff that really floats our boats is the hilarious, cringe-worthy stuff that just seems a lot more realistic — after all, sex is often awkward, full of miscommunication, with some head bonking and disappointment, maybe tears. […]

Pop Culture
The Virginity Project – a Blog, a Book, a Play

We first heard from Kate Monro a few years ago from across the pond when her Virginity Project was just a fledgeling little baby blog. Today, that blog, which collects and publishes first time tales of all sorts from all over the world, is shortlisted for the final of the UK Cosmoplitan Blog Awards 2011; she’s got a book […]

Personal Essays
Confession: Losing Your Virginity Ain’t No Big Thang

photo by mccun934 A college friend of ours who wishes to remain nameless has a confession to make: As a 21-year-old virgin I thought sex was going to be the most overwhelming, painful, awkward, terrible, awful experience ever.  Why did I think this?  Because friends, magazines, and blogs all over the place said so. Not so! Yes, cashing in […]

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Your Call: Should I Lie to Virgin BF About My Body Count?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call by leaving your advice in the comments section below: Dear Em & Lo, My boyfriend […]

Confessions
Comment of the Week: “In Sickness” Is a Scary Prospect

photo via Flickr When we published the latest installment of “The Virgin Diaries” by Katherine Chen, we suspected she’d take some flak in the comments section, since her position seems so extreme: basically “marriage will never be for me because I could never put someone before myself.” So we were kinda surprised when Jennifer wholeheartedly […]

Personal Essays
The Virgin Diaries: Why Marriage Is Not for Me

photo by jronaldlee.com Our contributor Katherine Chen, who is a junior English major at Princeton University (check out her personal site here), is penning a series of confessions for EMandLO.com collectively called “The Virgin Diaries.” Here’s her eighth installment: Around two years ago, just when I was about to go to college for the first […]

Personal Essays
The Virgin Diaries: Dating Downers

photo by Orin_Zebest Our contributor Katherine Chen, who is a junior English major at Princeton University (check out her personal site here), is penning a series of confessions for EMandLO.com collectively called “The Virgin Diaries.” Here’s her seventh installment: A few months ago, I was interviewing a relationship doctor for an online women’s magazine I […]