Wise Guys
Wise Guys: Is It Really Such a Big Deal If I Hate Giving Blowjobs?

Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: “I really hate going down on guys. I’ve tried it, I don’t like it. In fact, I loathe it. I feel bad about it, but if I don’t expect oral in return (I don’t), then why should I feel compelled to do […]

Why Do Men Masturbate When They’re Having Regular Sex?

photo via flickr Wise Guys is a regular column offering advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: “Why do men masturbate in relationships, even when the sex is good and regular?” Straight Married Guy (Ben): Every guy has a regular masturbation frequency (RMF) that is more or less unchangeable […]

Wise Guys: My Girlfriend Says Porn Is a Dealbreaker, Is She Right?

photo via flickr Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: “What do you do if your girlfriend, whom you love very much, doesn’t understand why you like and watch porn occasionally: she’s intellectually and viscerally opposed to it, thinks it is a horrible industry that exploits people and perpetuates […]

Wise Guys: What If Her Libido Is Bigger Than His?

photo via Flickr Advice from three of EMandLO.com’s guy friends. This week they answer the following: “What would most guys think about dating a woman whose sex drive was higher than his? Would it be awesome? Annoying? Lead to insecurities? Make you think less (or more) of her? All of the above?” To ask the […]

Wise Guys: What’s a Good Present for a Man?

photo by mysza Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: “What’s a good holiday present for 1) a guy you’ve just started dating (sleeping with), 2) a guy you’ve been exclusive with for a year or so, 3) a husband?” To ask the guys your own question, click here. […]

We’re Looking for a Few Good Wise Guys

The Wise Guys are coming back! But we have a few openings that need filling. (That didn’t come out quite right.) Are you a guy? Do you have something to say about the male experience and perspective when it comes to love and sex? Do you want fame and adoration without the complications of payment? […]

The Best Halloween Costume (Baby Or Otherwise) We Saw This Year

Mark Luczak is one of our favorite Wise Guys (everyday men who have given us the male perspective on love and sex issues since we began this blog back in 2009). As a Straight Single Wise Guy, Mark always responded to our advice questions — indeed every email we ever sent — with enthusiasm and […]

What Do You Want to Ask Our Wise Guys?

Regular visitors to this site might have noticed that it’s been a while since we posted a new installment of our Wise Guys column — this is the feature in which men from various relationship types/sexuality answer your burning questions. Well, these wise male buddies of ours are raring to go and ready to answer […]

Wise Guys: How to Make Fireworks in the Bedroom

Advice from three of EM & LO‘s guy friends. This week a straight woman asks, “Seeing as it’s Independence Day this week, what’s your number 1 tip for making fireworks in the bedroom?” Straight Single Guy (Tyler Barnett): Pop champagne! Sex is all about letting go of inhibitions and nothing helps you tap into those deep, […]

Wise Guys: What Would You Think of a Woman Proposing?

Advice from three of EMandLO.com’s guy friends. This week they answer the following: “Would most men be cool with a woman proposing marriage to them? (assuming they’re in a serious committed relationship where marriage has become an unspoken expectation for both parties).” To ask the guys your own question, click here. Straight Married Guy (Figleaf): I […]