Wise Guys: Do Men Fake Orgasms?

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Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer, quite diversely, the following: Do guys fake orgasms?

Straight Single Guy (Colin): Of course! We probably don’t faux the Big O as much as women do, but every now and then the circumstances might call for us to fake. If our endurance is flagging and she’s begging us to finish, of course we might pull a Sally Albright so we can just go to sleep. Obviously it’s a bit more difficult for us to fake a finish considering the visual evidence that comes with our climax, but if the lights are off (or we’re experienced street performers in sleight of hand) we might try and pull a fast one on you if we have to. It’s not you, it’s us. Unless it happens more than once — in which case you should check out the “Books by Us” section of this site.

Straight Married Guy (Matt): I haven’t heard many guys talk about faking an orgasm (I can’t think of a single one, actually). Guys do sometimes talk about trying desperately to delay an orgasm with a new girlfriend or someone who really turns them on, but not so much with the faking. I have personally only faked once; it was after a girl I was dating and I had already had sex once, and I think she thought she was doing me a favor by initiating a second round. After we’d been going at it for a while, she told me not to wait for her, as she could only have one orgasm per night and had already had one. After some time, being no closer to getting off, I performed my one and only fake orgasm. I was young then, and didn’t realize it would have been just fine to tell her that, like her, another one for me just wasn’t happening.

Gay Committed Guy (Terence): If guys fake orgasms, then I ‘d love to know how. Did I miss something? Maybe I’m way behind in sexual know-how, but I can’t think of ever having faked an orgasm. I have wanted to orgasm quickly and get the hell outta there, but that’s just wishing for godspeed, not faking it. I don’t know how or why I’d ever fake it. Boys’ orgasms are so…visual and fun! In your face, on your face, inside you, all over you. Woohoo! I’m curious to see what situations your readers come up with involving guys faking orgasms, ’cause I just keep it real, baby.

Our “wise guys” are a rotating group of contributors, some of whom wish to remain anonymous and some of whom like the attention. Colin Adamo is an undergrad at Yale University where he directs the biennial Sex Week at Yale; the other two are a little shy.

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I was with a guy once who was allergic to latex (and there was a lack of alternative birth control available during our time together), so we would do the old pull out thing and he faked it once (inside me)just to see how I would react.

We stopped fooling around after that. I thought that was a really weird thing to do, especially if you were just going to admit it like five minutes later.


Yes, I’ve faked climaxing, but have not had to often. Frequently, it occurs when she’s already climaxed a few times, and although the sex is good, I just can’t quite get there. Now, if she’s still enjoying herself, I’ll keep going, but if her body is getting tired (i.e.: she’s no longer wet, she’s not really doing anything, her comments all sound faked) then I’ll fake one. I’m sure some have known it, but I think (hope) I got credit for being considerate of her. Besides, if I don’t climax, then the next hour we can go until I do.

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Interesting comments about faking orgasms. I recall when I was younger, and more inexperienced with sex, I allowed guys to just have sex anyway they pleased and didnt complain. However, The older I’ve gotten, I just cant fake anything! I believe sex should be enjoyed. Nothing turns me off more than when any man cant make me reach a point of orgasm. It’s sickening!! From the moments I have any inclination that a guy cant make me reach an orgasm, tuff luck for him because when I cant reach one, he wont reach his either.. And I think I’m just… Read more »

Definitely have done this a few times…It’s after a long bout of sex usually where I’ve somehow managed to disengage my member from the idea of ‘finishing’ but of course you eventually reach a point where it’s obvious my lady-friend has gotten off a few times and it’s safe to finish…I just can’t!

So you give em a little, OHHH! AHH! Ahhhhhh….=] and it’s done.

Also, really really drunk I’ve had to do this a few times…just so I could go to sleep!

I can tell when guys faked it in a new relationship. Sometimes they are truthful, sometimes not. I don’t care. Could be a thousand reasons why. When they contine to be dishonest about it. Then I have a problem with it. If your not getting honesty, sex will degrade to nothing. My sex drive always seems to be stronger than about 75% of my partners, and they just can’t come that many times. They don’t have to lie. Maybe they just had a great time with themselves earlier. Being sexually well-matched is an important component to a lasting relationship. If… Read more »

I Drank alot of hotsause once and coldnt nut for 2 hours.


well, ive faked a couple orgasms when i was first having sex. but i found out later that faking it really is stupid, especially if the other person is trying hard to make you orgasm. so, its best to simply tell them you are not going to reach it.