Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: “How common are multiple orgasms among men?”
Straight Single Guy (Colin Adamo): This is one of those things that really mellow, grey-ponytailed guys that meditate daily, do kegels constantly, and have been practicing tantra since the late ’70s tell you is possible but that the majority of men have not experienced and don’t expect to any time this millennium. The idea of multiple orgasms reminds me of a more realistic fantasy of making auto-fellatio possible through years of practice like in the classic SNL skit with Will Farrell. I know it’s possible. And sure it sounds great. But who wants to put in all the hard work to get there?
Gay Committed Guy (Terence): I believe the nature of men is predisposed to multiple orgasms. By multiple I mean two. More than two is pushing it, but most men I’ve “known” have had a pretty good track record for multiples. Then again, by multiple are we talking within an hour or within a day? If you’re talking about a whole day’s worth, well then you’re looking at three to five orgasms easily — with diminishing returns of course.
Straight Married Guy (Matt): As in multiple orgasms in one night, or in one go? ‘Cause if it’s the former, you can probably start at around four to five orgasms a night as a physical possibility at age 18 (not something that happens very often in practice, mind you). From there it’s pretty much a straight diagonal line to zero times per night at age 90 or whatever. I’d say monogamy also exerts downward pressure on this line. Not to say that this is a bad thing; at 38, I’m frankly less than enthusiastic about the idea of spending enough time to bring about a second orgasm. One is plenty, thanks. As for multiple orgasms in one shot, I’ve never, ever heard of this happening — not to me or anyone else I know. Even if this were possible, due to each successive orgasm for men being less intense, I’d say again: one is plenty, thanks.
Our “guys” are a rotating group of contributors. Colin Adamo is an undergrad at Yale University where he directs the biennial Sex Week at Yale; Terence is an American living in Sydney; Matt is a little shy. To ask the guys your own question, click here.