Wise Guys: Do Men Imagine Sex with Every Woman?

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Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: Does every guy see a woman and immediately assess whether or not he’d want to have sex with her? And if he would want to have sex with her, does that mean she automatically becomes a part of his masturbatory fantasies?”

Straight Married Guy (David Felsen): Thanks for your question, now I feel like a total pig! I can’t speak for every guy, but this happily married man is constantly making subconscious Yay or Nay sexy-time assessments based solely on appearances. Within milliseconds of meeting or seeing someone, I either feel it or not. I could be in the middle of a mugging, and if the woman beating me up is cute, she gets a green light. I should also say that I’m a repressed white boy, and would never give a conscious signal I was attracted, because that’s just rude when you’re with your wife. Are some of them lucky enough to make it into my spanktheon? Rarely, and the runs are limited. That particular hall of glory is reserved for former girlfriends, my wife, and Jessica Rabbit.

Gay Single Guy (Jay Dyckman): Yes. 100% yes. Every human creature that falls within your sexuality spectrum is instantly sized up as a potential slap-and-tickle. Sometimes it is only for the morbid curiosity factor, i.e. the geriatric, your second cousin, etc. But it absolutely happens.  Like it or not, that means you are currently starring in someone’s five-finger-matinee. And there is simply no divide on gay and straight to this question. Men are men. If we find you remotely sexually appealing, you probably will have at least a walk-on part in some later fantasy.

Straight Single Guy (Tim): Yes, every time we see a woman who is remotely attractive, some sort of sexual thought goes through our head. We immediately know whether or not we would sleep with that woman and most of the time picture doing so, if even for a second. That being said, there are way too many beautiful women out there to incorporate them all into our fantasies. It would be chaos! We like to focus on two or three, which oddly enough don’t tend to change that often. Occasionally a random stranger we saw that day will make a guest appearance, but if we were to get off over every hot girl we saw, we’d never leave the house.

Our “wise guys” are a rotating group of contributors, some of whom wish to remain anonymous and some of whom like the attention. This week’s Straight Married Guy is David Felsen, a comedian and writer, our Gay Guy is Jay Dyckman, an LA copywriter, and our Single Straight Guy is a little shy. To ask the guys your own question, click here.

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7 months 15 days ago

Someone asked why this person gettin mad about men s though, why she was in this website and I think I could have the answer. I got here looking for help, like this can be fix, but i think i cant lie to myself no more, I felt pain to read this because I do love my husband very much and I dont see other men and think to fuck them or any, I got married 1 year ago, and dont get me wrong I had sex before but I never went unfaithfull, I never go like these thoughts about asses and koks, i am a dirty person in bed with him, we fuck outdoors anytime we can, i certanly love our sexual life and i was happy enough like this, and I think I am a beautiful woman, but since I am living with my husband, I see how he see other women, he just cant just deny it. but he try and is a lame, he say he dont he love me and that but his actions are very diferent and then, for first time in my relationship Im stopping to see him as sexual partner forever. I mean, its good for you if you like everywoman, but then why you get marry, no make sense for me. I am from Italy, and actually believe the best is going divorce, this is making me unhorney and im stopping to enjoy sex thinking he is not even with me, he have in his mind that lady he saw like an animal during fuck me, that one he pretend he didnt even see, hurt me so much, im going not wanting him so fast and if this is “to be married” in this “natural” way to be
I rather to go fucking a bunch of honest guys who dont hurt me because i will not fall in love, or marry them, is more honest than to live with a man who lie to me. that guy that want anybody else, can certanly live with out me. and live my life single. I think is time to move on and talk to him, face that he is not gonna change it and i will not gonna take it.

10 months 11 days ago

Im a happily married woman, but definetely desire every hot guy I see….and I actually act on my urgea, I still love my husband but pleasure is pleasure…

4 years 1 month ago

I don’t think there’s anything inherently incompatible with being an intellectual and being a sexual being. I’ll prove my point in two words: James Joyce. Who could be more academic and salacious?

4 years 1 month ago

I know this thread is over a year old, but I just found it and had to ask…

If Smarties is so intellectual and good-minded, how did he/she find this website? What were YOU searching for that brought you here? Certainly not the pursuit of scholarly advancement!

I think you’re an introvert perv that outwardly suppresses your natural thoughts but secretly you’re a raging sexoholic!

5 years 10 months ago

Interesting…And truth be told EVERY woman I see EVERY SINGLE DAY is assessed for her bang-ability score. All very subjective and carnal. Sexy face 1 point. Cute thicker ass (my favorite) 3 points. Nice breasts 1 point. Hair, skin, and her walk each 2 points. I could go on. But the answer is YES…