Single Straight Guy (Colin Adamo of Hooking Up & Staying Hooked): Not always. I think we spend a lot of time debating and turning this question over and over in our own heads as soon as we’re in a serious relationship (or even the first couple of weeks with a really exciting new partner). In some cases we may not recognize it until it’s too late. Other times we jump to conclusions and let out those three words when we shouldn’t. Sometimes the best thing that can happen to us is having friends and family give us that little push and point out that we are, in fact, in love.
Married Straight Guy (Irad Eyal of Sexdegrees.net): Yes. No! Why is she here all the time? I think guys know when they’re in love, but they’re instantly terrified by the implications. At the moment our hearts start soaring, we’re dragged down by fears of commitment, settling down, and worse. Emotions of any sort can be scary (Why is that baby seal so cute to me? Club it!), but love is the worst. Confronting love is an internal battle that has to play out before a guy can proceed to actually being in love.
Committed Gay Guy (Terence): You betcha we know. It’s usually about two months behind schedule. A man’s realization is often triggered by his lover’s threat to bail if he doesn’t get with the program. But once he does, it’s on.
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Our “guys” are a rotating group of contributors. Irad Eyal is a writer, TV producer, and founder of celebrity gossip site Sexdegrees.net; Colin Adamo is a recent Yale grad and author/blogger behind Hooking Up & Staying Hooked, the only sex and relationships resource specifically for high school guys; and Terence is an American living in Sydney. To ask the guys your own question, click here.