Do Men Snoop On Their Partners As Much As Women?

Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: Do men snoop on their partners? (E.g. reading their texts or emails when they’re in the shower, listening in on phone calls, etc.)” Ask the guys your own question here.

colin_adamo_100Straight Single Guy (Colin): Unless it’s an emergency situation, we just don’t want to know. For most men, ignorance is bliss. We’ve got so many more interesting things to do with our time (with inventions like XBox, internet porn, and fantasy football) that digging through your dirt to discover something juicy would just be a distraction. If we have serious suspicions we might snoop as a last resort — so if you catch your man red-handed you know something is up and it’s time to have a conversation.

terence_100Gay Committed Guy (Terence): To paraphrase the wise sage Whitney Houston: “If six of y’all went out, then four of you were really cheap — ’cause I found your credit card receipt.” Hey, I do the laundry around here, so it’s a completely plausible scenario in my home. I don’t want any gum left in his pockets accidentally mucking up the washing machine, ya know? But it wasn’t until nine years into our relationship that I snooped through his cellphone, and I only did it because of some relationship insecurities. After discovering a whole lotta stuff I didn’t want or need to know, I then got to feel more insecure. So I’m sure men snoop, but does it help? Nope. Does it make a situation worse, crank up the distrust, and create an environment of deception? You betcha. My advice, let karma run its course. It’ll all wash out in the end.

anonymous_suitStraight Married Guy (Matt): I feel like most of the stories I’ve heard from friends involve the woman snooping on her partner, but I’m sure plenty of men snoop, too. I’ve snooped in partners’ emails twice. One time the girl had cheated and I confirmed my suspicions, and the other time a different girlfriend had written some emails to an ex that were sexually inappropriate… so while it wasn’t technically cheating, I felt at least the tiniest bit justified in my snooping. It’s a shameful business, and my feeling is you deserve what you find — which is why I made a deal with myself not to snoop after the last incident caused a major fight and left me feeling really shitty about both my partner and myself for quite a while.

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My now ex girlfriend was and still is addicted to snooping through my emails, phone, internet history, everything she could find. After we broke up she is over here packing her things and googling all of the numbers on the caller id on my landline. I changed all my passwords a while ago to try to get her to kick the habit but that only made things between us worse, like i now had something horrible to hide when i told her straight up i was fed up with her snooping and demanding to know answers about google searches i… Read more »

My current boyfriend emailed my X boyfriend from 5 years back. My current BF created a fake profile of a woman, contacted my X saying she (he) was new to the area and was looking for friends. My X took the bate and my current was digging to find out about my past sexual experiens with him. I just ended the relationship yesterday….psych!


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My boyfriend snoops to find dirt on me constantly. I’ve asked him about it several times and he’s admitted that he doesn’t fully trust me. I don’t have anything to hide and I’m not exactly an open book so it doesn’t really bother me at the moment but what happens if this never goes away? He left the house (yes we live together amazingly) and I used his laptop which he left running. What I found left me almost speechless: instructions on how to clone a sim card… WTF

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My baby daddy snoops on me all the time. He imagines in his own head that I would cheat on him. I love this dude so much but all he does is cause me stress that is not needed. Once he placed a tape recorder in our bedroom…of course nothing was on there but in his head he heard a male’s voice (must have been the t.v.)…and violated is what I now feel..the feeling stays rather he is here or not….this has been over a year and the accusing of cheating has still continously comes up…the other snooping is of… Read more »

Yes! they do and unfortunately just as women do they make things up from little pieces of what they THINK they find sad yes,but true.I’ve cared deeply for men who because of their own insecurities didn’t trust me.