Wise Guys: Do Men Care What Labia Look Like?

Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: “What is the general consensus on women with big labia, or longer inner labia, or dark labia? Does it really matter? With the rise in labiaplasty surgery and all the adult men’s mags only showing only “neat and tidy” vulvas, it’s hard to figure out if this is just some manufactured porn ideal or a vast preference among men…?” To ask the guys your own question, click here.

daniel_100Gay Single Guy (Daniel): If this is anything like the reference for cut versus uncut men (which would be the only way I could relate to this question, frankly), I’d have to say it’s probably just personal preference and if most of the men’s porn rags have neat and tidy, then that might just be the preference of the magazine editors. Big, dark, longer inner, whatever, it’s probably safe to say that a general consensus among men is CLEAN labia. After that, I’m sure it’s not a deal breaker.

mark_luczak_100Straight Single Guy (Mark Luczak): Cosmetically, a woman should feel completely comfortable with herself — confidence in oneself and one’s appearance is key. While I’ll certainly allow for any number of healthy avenues (diet, working out) toward as much visual improvement as one desires, being compelled explicitly by the “ideals” portayed in media and advertising and yes, porn, to go so far as to surgically alter oneself just to achieve this “perfection” seems a little overboard (and labiaplasty itself seems even an especially drastic thing to do).

As far as the male consensus, let me just say that if everything looked exactly the same, think how boring that would be. Those adult magazines simply don’t do justice to the great “variety” that is out there! Anyway, everyone being different in their own way is what makes us all special (not to go all Mr. Rogers). But seriously, if a guy is with someone he wants to be with for who she is as a complete person, how her labia look doesn’t really matter — he’s just thrilled to get to be intimate with her, and all her parts.

james_glazebrook_100Straight Married Guy (James Glazebrook): I’m not a fan of plastic surgery, but I concede that not everyone is blessed with the same perfect proportions as me — that is, a big enough head to comfortably support some seriously outsized features.

So I understand why someone would get his or her nose done. After all, it’s out there for all to see, at all times. As for people whose face is the secret to their success, the pressure to have photogenic features has meant that movie stars stretching back to Marilyn Monroe have been getting their faces “fixed.”

The same is true for porn stars and their most valuable assets, their professional pussies. Either the big, long and dark labia are all being nipped and tucked, or they aren’t making it off the casting couch. But whether they’re being physically cut, or simply being cut in the editing suite, “imperfect” labia aren’t finding their way into pornography.

While this may be creating some impossible standards among men (and women) who can’t distinguish between fantasy and reality, for the rest of us it should be liberating. If your genitals aren’t frequently exposed to countless viewers, as long as they work, it doesn’t much matter what they look like. If you trust someone enough to let them down there, you should trust them not to put some alien porn ideal before your feelings or, more importantly, their chances of getting laid.

Our “guys” are a rotating group of contributors. This week’s Straight Married Guy is James Glazebrook of Most Likely To; our Gay Guy is one-time stripper and sex columnist Daniel; and our Straight Single Guy is Mark Luczak, a tech geek at Carnegie Mellon University. To ask the guys your own question, click here.

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If they like you they’ll love your labia. Big or small. I didn’t like freckles. Until my girlfriend had them. Now I love them.


have you got time to talk about this? i’m feeling down about it…


I have large lips and 99% of the guys I have been with said they thought it was sexy. So I think most men like it.

Erik Karl

No fkn way man. All the guys i know like big labs 🙂

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women don’t like foreskinned dicks so much that they chop off their babies to fit their sexual preferences. Men can have their own sexual preferences as well. Most men don’t like long labia and most women don’t like uncircumcised dicks. Ya’ll can either get the surgery to fix this issue like so many men undergo or deal with some men rejecting you. Simple as that. Don’t trust everything you read on the internet.

Are you fucking for real?!?! Mass male infant mutilation (circumcision) began in this country after WWI when GIs came back riddled with the clap and worse. Before that, it was strictly for religious reasons. MEN do not undergo this procedure absent serious medical reasons. Personally, I prefer intact men. My current partner is Jewish. I don’t let that fact interfere with my affection towards him, nor my love of his cock. It’s the person, not the fun bits, that matter. I happen to have very large, fleshy outer labia – and I’ve never heard any complaints. I expect a man… Read more »

umm source? for any of this? lol apparently women like cut dicks now. apparently women circumcise their kids and not because doctors pressure parents to (all parents not just women, but you probably didn’t know men could be parents lmao). youre making shit up. anyone who tries to advertise themselves as “the truth” are 100% BSing, every single time, no exceptions. you make no sense and have no sources. god damn i am ashamed of being a human. try getting a job instead of whining about how your dad didn’t hug you enough.

Wise Guys

Ha, yeah, we’re pretty sure that the only “truth” in what that person says is this comment at the end of his post: “Don’t trust everything you read on the internet.” This warning goes double for anonymous commenters calling themselves “the truth.”

I recently lost my virginity and I noticed my larger labia when I was little but never paid much attention to it, I became curious and started watching porn a couple years ago and saw all the perfect little vaginas and got really insecure and was positive there was something wrong with me so I was really nervous to have sex with this guy but I figured he would just go in and not look at it, but he ended up going down on me and I was really surprised when he didn’t say anything about it, I’m not sure… Read more »
I also have a rather large and “roast beef” looking labia. I’m 23 and pretty and would have no problem getting a guy if it weren’t for my insecurities. I break off every relationship I’ve ever had by the time I’ve told them no, they can’t go down on me for so long before it turns into a big deal. They must notice, but I’m so ashamed I can even say how I feel. I feel like it’s ruining my chance for happiness. A little dramatic, I know, but that’s how much it affects my confidence. I want to find… Read more »
As a man, I’m overwhelmingly more concerned with what kind of partner I’m with (personality, degree and quality of friendship, mutual degree of attraction and desire) than what kind of labia she has, how large her breasts are, or various other body parts that people seem to focus on. Her labia could be nonexistent, unusually large, or anywhere in between. While it is enjoyable to fantasize about different types of labia (and I do fantasize about different types), and I would be curious as to what giving oral to someone with longer labia would be like, it really doesn’t matter.… Read more »