Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: “Is there such a thing as too much sex for a guy? Or will men generally be up for it whenever it’s offered/available?”
Gay Single Guy (Daniel): THERE IS NO SUCH THING AS TOO MUCH SEX for a guy. Any man who claims the contrary might be asexual or LYING THROUGH THEIR TEETH. HOWEVER, that isn’t the same as “We’ll take it whenever it’s offered/available.” We DO have standards — even when drunk!
Straight Single Guy (Mark Luczak): I’ll step past the “Too much sex? Impossible!” stereotype that guys are just one-track hornballs who don’t think about anything other than where and how they can get some lovin’, constantly hounding gals until they finally give it up. Hopefully we all know by now that the spectrum of sex drives runs the gamut independent of gender.
For the most part, hey, sex feels amazing, and as humans we’re built to desire the connection, and the release, and everything that comes with it. So my initial thought is that “too much sex” would be a good problem to have, at least compared to “not enough sex,” whatever those two relative phrases would mean to any given person. So in those contexts, I’ll concede that guys will probably be generally up for it, as long as it doesn’t start to negatively affect things like work and other life responsibilities — again, it’s something we’re designed to crave, but there has to be a balance.
Straight Married Guy (James Glazebrook): I know what my personal answer to this would be, but what if I’m abnormally low on testosterone, or technically a woman because of my tendency not to feel sexy enough, or just plain lazy? In the interest of impartiality, I opened up the question “Is there such a thing as too much sex for a guy” to readers of my blog Manflet. Unfortunately the insight of our typical reader ranged all the way from “in prison, mayhap” to a straight “no.” So while I may not agree with the biological argument that men are hard-wired to screw around and women are designed to be faithful, my straw poll of “normal” guys indicates that — as suspected — they’ll do it whenever, wherever, with who/whatever.
Our “guys” are a rotating group of contributors. This week’s Straight Married Guy is James Glazebrook of Most Likely To; our Gay Guy is one-time stripper and sex columnist Daniel; and our Straight Single Guy is Mark Luczak, a tech geek at Carnegie Mellon University. To ask the guys your own question, click here.