Straight Single Guy (Chris): Another easy one: It’s never a good idea. No, that’s not actually true. I think you’ll know if it’s a good idea if the relationship passes one easy-to-measure test: You really, really, no bullshit, enjoy each others’ company, even when you aren’t in bed, or out at a beautiful restaurant, or doing some amazing activities. You need to enjoy each just sitting on the couch reading books or watching TV or talking over coffee. If your relationship up until the move-in point has consisted only of dates, you’re fucked. Spend lots more time together DOING NOTHING and see how it goes.
Straight Committed Guy (Johnny): You never know these things. You roll the dice on someone you care about. Sometimes that gamble pays off, other times it costs you everything. It’s like a mini version of marriage in terms of the investment and the risk. So my answer to the question is: before you get married. Don’t marry someone you haven’t lived with for at least a year.
Gay Single Guy (Angelo Nikolopoulos of The White Swallow): It’s never a good idea to move in with someone because:
(a) moving is a bitch
(b) decorative aesthetics will always clash
(c) there’s something thrilling about preparing a weekend “whore bag” (it’s like a mini-vacation!)
(d) lovers will always disappoint you
With that said, most of life’s inescapable forays aren’t, technically speaking, good ideas. Procreation being one of them. I guess if you decide that misery isn’t circumstantial but a mainstay of the human condition, it would probably be wise to move in with a partner who’s attractive, financially stable, and only mildly disgusted by witnessing you at your bloated worst. After all, the option to die miserable and alone is something you could always revisit later in life.
Our “wise guys” are a rotating group of contributors, some of whom wish to remain anonymous and some of whom like the attention. This week’s Gay Guy is Angelo Nikolopoulos, host of an NYC queer reading series The White Swallow; Straight Single Guy is blogger Chris DiClerico; and our Straight Committed Guy is regular EMandLO.com commenter, Johnny. To ask the guys your own question, click here.