Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: “What’s the general guy consensus on PDA?”
Straight Married Guy (James Glazebrook): For some reason, I only clock public displays of affection in nightclubs or on the London Underground. I have no idea what’s so sexy about these squalid subterranean Victorian spaces. Maybe it’s the heat or the filth or the drugs or the angry-commuter tension… but whatever it is, it drives couples to that kind of necking when you can’t make out where one tongue ends and the other begins, and it sounds like they’re actually eating each other. Personally, I prefer my PDA a little more, well, girly. I like to hold hands. I also like to hug and lock eyes with the woman I love, and give her the occasional peck on the check. She likes it too. So it works for me, but the fact that just admitting this makes me feel less of man leads me to believe that I’m far from typical — and maybe even more of a freak than those horn-dogs dry humping on the dance floor of a soulless super-club.
Gay Married Guy (Jon Ross): I always find seeing someone else perform PDA mildly distasteful and it usually makes me want to throw up a little bit in my mouth. But to each his or her own. It’s a free country. Serious canoodling and make-out sessions in plain view are excusable only if you are a teenager or highly intoxicated, and even then, please, just get a room. But I’m not a soulless monster. I know the feeling of wanting to show the world your love. Do whatever feels good, just know people will be disgusted by you. Personally, I engage in minimal amounts of PDA with my husband, and that makes the occasional and spontaneous hand-hold or sidewalk kiss all the more enjoyable.
Straight Single Guy (Chris): I probably am not speaking for the whole single male population, but I am not a huge fan of public displays of affection. Of course I hold hands, or hug or kiss now and then, but I am definitely of the opinion that making out should be done in private. [Tune in tomorrow for Chris’s best PDA story ever!]
Our “guys” are a rotating group of contributors. This week’s Straight Married Guy is James Glazebrook of Manflet, our Straight Single Guy is Chris DiClerico, and our Gay Married Guy is Jon Ross. To ask the guys your own question, click here.