Wise Guys: What Do Guys Think of Au Naturel?

Advice from three of our guy friends. This week a straight woman asks, What do guys think when a woman doesn’t trim, shave or wax her pubic hair at all?

anonymous_suitStraight Single Guy (Max): My rule is simple: if I can get through the forest and perform certain acts without being inhibited, then I don’t care. That being said, I would much rather go down on a girl than have her go down on me (which I know is somewhat rare), so my preference is easy access. Do you ladies understand how rad it is to hear, see and feel you freaking out when we go down on you? It’s awesome. Especially when you’re completely comfortable with it. Keeping it completely bare is not necessary but I confess that when a girl is freshly waxed we can BOTH have a lot more fun.

wiseguy_benStraight Married Guy (Ben): It sort of depends. If there’s some thought behind it, like she’s a hippy or a really old school feminist – in other words, if she’s not shaving/ waxing/ trimming on purpose – then it doesn’t really matter to me. The fact that she’s deliberately making an aesthetic choice about her pubes makes all the difference. But if she’s just being lazy or not putting in the effort, well then that actually says a lot — much more than what’s actually going on down there. Of course, realize that if you do make that choice not to do any upkeep, you’re going against what a lot of guys are hoping / expecting to find (see other Manhandled columns here and here). So if you do want to go for that “overgrown look” then I’ll give you this quick tip: popping out of the top of the underwear or bikini is way sexier than coming out of the sides. In fact, a bit of bush overflowing the top of some low cut panties can actually be pretty darn hot.

Gay Single Guy (Bradford Shellhammer): I know what gay guys would do. They would hold you down, pin back your arms, and call for back-up. Shaving it all away, I find, is weird and kinda upsetting. But everyone should trim: your eyebrows, your nose-hairs, your hair on your head, back hair, and yes, down there. Say “We’re animals and it belongs there” and I might upchuck on you. Some things in nature need to be cleaned up. Not removed. But cleaned up. Like a lawn. Letting it go is just troublesome.

Our “wise guys” are a rotating group of contributors, some of whom wish to remain anonymous and some of whom like the attention. This week’s Straight Married Guy is Ben, a writer and artist living in Los Angeles; our Gay Guy is fellow SUN blogger Bradford Shellhammer, the creative director of fabulis and a New York Times featured decorator; and our Single Straight Guy, Max, is a recent college grad in New England. To ask the guys your own question, click here.

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I, personally, keep mine trimmed back most of the time.
But if I want to pamper myself, sometimes I’ll go to the spa and get a brazilian with a landing strip.
I don’t really like shaved, or completely bald. Shaved is itchy, and completely bald makes it seem like a little kid’s.
But it’s all up to personal preference I guess. Each to their own.


I choose to trim things up a bit so it looks neat & clean but going bald is definitely not my thing.keeping it trimmed & cute is acceptable for me and my man.

I find that body hair on a gal is a big turn on for me (almost a fetish), as long as she is clean and takes care of herself. It may be that I love the contrast since, as a man, I have an unbelievably small amount of hair on my body naturally. I didn’t have any whatsoever until I turned 19. One girl I dated noticed I had a thing for the fur on her body and completely stopped shaving. I was astounded at the amount of beautiful hair that adorned her all over. She loved to place her… Read more »

I must disagree with Anais on “Waxing shaving lasering –NOT FUN.”

Shaving does sort of suck because of the stubble. Lasering hurts like hell. Waxing is sort of fun, and the end result? Amazingly soft skin — FUN!


What does Max mean about being able to see, hear, and feel a girl freaking out? Is a natural bush so enormous that he’s completely sensory-deprived?

This is not about whether I personally shave (I am not a very hairy person anyway and I would not have sex with a man who expected me to keep my pubic area shaved). What I have a hard time with is telling other women what they “should” do. I agree that it can be healthy to deconstruction oneself, to question one’s preferences. I just have a problem with anyone telling women what our preferences and personal choices should be. The right to decide what to do with my own body is something I feel strongly about, and I have… Read more »
I think one of the points Anais is getting at, Sugarmag, is that we should all be questioning why we “want” to. What do you get or expect to get by shaving? Many people have already pointed out the physical pain that can result, in various ways. So what is the real reason or reasons why people are willing to subject themselves to pain or the potential for pain (including infection)? And are those reasons something you want to “fight for”? I’m not saying that it’s impossible to have a good reason to shave/wax/whatever, but when it comes to our… Read more »