What Do Men Think of Women Who Have Their Own Condom Supply?

Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: What do men think of a woman who has her own supply of condoms? What do they think of women who expect men alone to always buy the condoms?

jon_rossGay Married Guy (Jon Ross): I think a woman who has her own supply of condoms is responsible, healthy and probably fun to hang out with. I like to think we’ve moved beyond the concept of a “modern woman.” Every person needs to take responsibility for his or her own sexual health and safety.

chris_diclericoStraight Single Guy (Chris): A girl with condoms is sexy, experienced, and confident. I have absolutely no problem with it. I think it might bother me a little if someone always expected me to supply them, but not enough not to fuck them, so I guess it doesn’t really matter. You know what does bother me, though? A half-empty bottle of lube. I just always assume the worst: rough anal with somebody the night before. They really should put that stuff in smaller bottles.


Straight Married Guy (David): For most married men this is probably a moot point. Whatever protections against the makin’ of babies they use are paid for with shared funds. Or the babies already made have made the makers too exhausted to do the baby making thang at all. In which case any old condoms get used for the making of balloon animals.

Our “guys” are a rotating group of contributors. This week’s Straight Married Guy is David Jacobs, a NYC-based photographer; our Straight Single Guy is Chris DiClerico; and our Gay Married Guy is Jon Ross of Boerum Hill Blog. To ask the guys your own question, click here.

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d, they were probably studded like winter tires, too! (Gotta love the lingo on those vending machine condoms…”studs, for *her* pleasure”…yeah, right!)


Btw, I bought them just to “try them on”. I didn’t have sex until years later.


SS: about your 14yo son’s “flavored condoms”:

The very first condoms I bought (I guess I also was around 14yo then) were flavored, too.


Because I was too embarrassed to buy them in a drug store, so I got them out of a vending machine in a public restroom. And the cheapest package in that vending machine contained just two – flavored – condoms.

(I remember that the artifical banana flavor smelled awful.)


First off I think it’s awesome when they have them in that little nightstand on her side of the bed, but I did freak out when I saw the Magnums!

As far as the half full bottle of lube; if it’s for anything besides her toys then I go with the vision of insane anal, and then she’s a slut! 😉

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While I do agree, one should probably display a NEW bottle of lube with a new lover, women can and do use lube for things other than “rough anal with somebody the night before” 😉 Lube goes well with sex toys, alone or with a partner. Or even solo sex with no toys. But, yeah, keep the half empty bottle in your nightstand and have a new one, with the seal on it for new lovers. Really. IF I were to ever date again (and I hope I never will have to) I would certainly carry my own polyisoprene condoms,… Read more »

I always carried condoms from the age of 14 on, even before having sex. Why? I was prepared and I knew the ones in my purse could be trusted over one carried around in some guys wallet for months, left in a glove box or out of a truck stop vending machine. If i was going to have sex and use protection, i would want it to work, right? Now Im married, 22 years old and we keep a stock in the bathroom.


Seems as appropriate to me as her having a bottle of asprin. Don’t want to offend anyone, but I disagree with Chris’s assumptions that it’s a sign that she’s ‘sexy, experienced, and confident’.