Advice from three of EMandLO.com’s guy friends. This week they answer the following: “What makes for a memorable (in a good way) one night stand?” To ask the guys your own question, click here.
Straight Single Guy (Colin Adamo): Often the fun part of a one-night stand is in the spontaneity, the sense of adventure and exploration, and the feeling that you’re doing something naughty. You can make yours memorable by amplifying all these factors. Dig deep into your closet of kinky thoughts, if you’re not comfortable doing this with a random stranger, you could always look to one of the best escort website options to experiment first. Find one of those dirty, dirty fantasies you save for the extra-long, extra steamy showers. One so exquisitely filthy you’d drop dead if anyone you knew found out it ever even crossed your mind. Maybe it’s simply begging for dirty talk so X-rated it would make Larry Flynt blush. Maybe it’s dragging him into a confessional booth at St. Patrick’s Cathedral where you both shout to the heavens. Whatever it is, you’ve got nothing to lose, since you don’t plan on seeing him again. Feel free to be assertive fulfilling your wild fantasy. He will never forget your enthusiasm and racy imagination — even if he can’t remember your name.
Straight Married Guy (Irad Eyal): I haven’t had a lot of one-night stands, but the one that stands out the most was the one that really reveled in its one-night-standishness. Instead of trying to be something it wasn’t (i.e. the start of a real relationship), this particular hook-up held its nose, downed the Jager shots (metaphorically), and got real dirty, real fast. And that’s precisely the paradoxical freedom a one-night stand should grant — the freedom to truly be yourself, because you’ll never see this person again. I remember now. It was actually Goldschlager.
Gay Committed Guy (Terence): Lots and lots of alcohol followed by humor (cause let’s face it, they are funny) and acknowledging the moment for what it is makes the most comfortable, breezy, sexy, fun and memorable “any” night stand.
Our “guys” are a rotating group of contributors. Irad Eyal is a writer, TV producer, and founder of celebrity gossip site Sexdegrees.net; Colin Adamo is a recent Yale grad and author/blogger behind Hooking Up & Staying Hooked, the only sex and relationships resource specifically for high school guys; and Terence is an American living in Sydney. To ask the guys your own question, click here.
One night stand will be great in that one will have the opportunity to be totally oneself in expressing your sexual fantasy but regrettably i have never had a on night stand because i always feel i need to be in control which is the very emotion that a ONS must be without.
One-night stands are for bedpost notchers, merely a way of keeping score that one is hot whether one is or not.
It’s hard to have “amazing sex” with someone you just met and have a one night stand with. They don’t know you sexually. I’m not saying it’s impossible.
I also feel like most of my one night stands happen when I’m very drunk and VERY drunk sex is never that great either.
For me, just the fact that it happened. It’s a feather in my cap – a little “yessssss!” feeling. It means I’ve got game, and I belong to the small percentage of guys who can pull off a one-night stand at all.
I’ve never had amazing sex on a one-night stand though. Any time the sex was great the first time we both came back for more. Typically the reason ONS’s for me never become anything more is because the sex was just “meh.”