Wise Guys: What's the Appeal of Bare Down There?

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Advice from three of our guy friends. This week a straight woman asks,“What is the appeal (or not) of a woman who’s completely bare down there?

Straight Married Guy (Mike): I grew up in a world of topshelf Playboy (and god forbid) Penthouse magazines. In Playboy, the bush was an airbrushed mask that softened the mystery of what was underneath — and it was a mystery. In Penthouse, more was revealed, but the bush was as celebrated as the afro. The bush itself was the object of fascination — and the subject of much full frontal nudity. Then, somewhere along the way — perhaps it was the Clinton years — the bush started to fade away. First a mohican strip, then a mere trail, followed by total eradication. The mystery, the magic of all that is female was lost for an entire generation. Too bad for them.

It’s kind of hard to take this hairless fad seriously — and that’s what it is — because it is born out of digital-age pornography, not natural lust. It’s made us into uniform skinned aliens. Human fuck-me dolls. It asks women to be forever girls and not women. Worse, it demands aesthetic perfection, which opens the door to surgery, bleaching and other madness. Bob Guccione, the world needs you.

Gay Single Guy (Jay Dyckman): I suppose the appeal is practical.  I mean, how many times have you seen someone struggle to dislodge a pubic hair from his or her mouth or throat during the middle of sex?  Things are going great and then suddenly Garfield is coughing up a hairball down below.  Sort of a mood-breaker.  But I have to say, as it goes for gay guys — and yes, many guys also trim to within an millimeter of their life down there — I find it can be a turn-off.  The more manicured a man is, the less masculine he comes across.  And for many gays, myself included, that’s a no-go.  I suppose that doesn’t hold true for my straight brethren however.

Straight Single Guy (Tyler Barnett): The issue of hair down there seems to be generational and cultural. Just about every guy friend I have (we’re in our late twenties) agrees that completely shaved is the best bet. Comparisons are often made to shaved vulvas resembling adolescents, and understandably so, but I personally have never made that connection visually, physically or mentally. For me and my friends, is just looks and feels clean, smooth and feminine. It’s a cultural norm, as common as shaved legs and armpits. Underarm hair on women is generally thought to be displeasing, but in Europe it was considered sexy for years. If it we’re really an issue of pubic hair being natural, I would ask why women shave their legs and underarms here? Without getting too graphic, finding a hair in my salad at a restaurant is enough to ruin the entire meal. Make sense?

Our “wise guys” are a rotating group of contributors, some of whom wish to remain anonymous and some of whom like the attention. This week’s Straight Married Guy is a filmmaker from New York, our Gay Guy is Jay Dyckman, an LA copywriter, and our Single Straight Guy is Tyler Barnett of Tyler Barnett PR in LA. To ask the guys your own question, click here. To ask the guys your own question, click here.

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56 Comments on "Wise Guys: What's the Appeal of Bare Down There?"

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5 years 6 months ago

I’ve often wondered what men prefer; smooth, trimmed or natural.

I most recently (within the last couple of years or so) began completely removing my pubic hair.

From a female perspective, it makes sex SO much more satisfying as there is nothing obstructing clitoral contact during intercourse. That right there gets a big old YAY!

Secondly, I find my partners LOVE the feel of the smoothness against all body parts, be it mouth, tongue or the big dipper.

Lastly, I feel sexier and more attractive hair free.

5 years 7 months ago

As I sit here contemplating a rare but very irritated razor-burn rash under my chin I’m reminded once again that shaving is unnatural no matter who does it. That said, my bare face is definitely more sensitive when my partner touches me there. It’s definitely easier to keep my face clean when shave regularly.

I should also say that most of my partners have preferred to kissing and being kissed without a beard rather than with one. Personally I think I just tend to look better clean-shaven than with a beard or moustache.

Even without considering visual or partner preferences I think most people shave various parts of their bodies for the same reason I shave mine: occasional razor burn notwithstanding it’s more practical and the sensations are nicer for me.


5 years 7 months ago

The fact that I can’t seem to form an opinion on this topic troubles me slightly. Is there something (other than the obvious) wrong with me? Am I ‘too nice’ to even have a conviction? Most of my firsthand experiences came at a time when pubic topiary was a rarity so the state of nature seems pretty normal to me. I have encountered a few who were trimmed or waxed and it struck me as interesting and novel but not compelling. Generally, I’m just happy to have the opportunity to play. The length of the grass on the field is so trivial it doesn’t warrant much discussion. Please note that no slight is intended to those partisans who are willing to fight and die over the issue; I just don’t feel it.

5 years 7 months ago

we (my boyfriend and I) discussed this the other day and neither of us can see the appeal of being anything other than natural or very slightly trimmed (I’ve recently started trimming a tuft that sits over my clit for er ‘unimpeded access’ ;0)) but we do seem to be in the minority lately, my best friend, who is generally very free with her affections shall we say, was surprised that there was still a guy out there who liked pubes! I don’t get fuss about hair in the mouth though, I could probably count on my fingers the number of times that has happened, which would make it probably less than 1% of the times I’ve gone down on my guy ;0) and it’s never been a big deal, you laugh it off and carry on, what on earth are all these hair phobic people doing that makes it a trauma worth the pain of waxing?!

5 years 7 months ago

Coming from a girl who is bare down there, most girls are more comfortable with themselves when there is no hair down there. Especially during their ‘monthly’ things it keeps them feeling cleaner. Other wise its like sticking a feather duster in jelly and trying to wash it all out. yeah its not gunna happen. My boyfriend happens to get off very much from it. he says just the feel of it being smooth and what not is amazing to him. i dunno. maybe it is a generational thing.