2/22/11
Wise Guys – What’s the Male Consensus on Period Sex?

photo by greenchartreuse

Advice from three of our guy friends. This week a straight woman asks,”What’s the general male consensus on period sex?

Straight Single Guy (Tyler Barnett): Period sex, like most forms of sex, falls into the category of sure, why not. The truth is we are generally happy to be having sex, even if it’s a bit messy at times. It also comes down to a level of comfort. Often when you are comfortable in a relationship, this is something that is not a huge deal. On the flip side, if it’s the first time, it might be better to wait a bit before leaving a permanent mark on the boudoir. At the end of the day, sex is sex is sex and it’s all good. Period.

Straight Married Guy (David Jacobs): Limits the menu somewhat and helps to have a dark towel handy, but that said I’m fine with it. Period. I know some women I’ve been with I’ve been with seemed a little skeeved by it, but I always suspected there was really something else going on. After all, sex is supposed to be messy, right? But menstrual blood is a pretty primal reminder of the whole cycle, and of the possibility of impregnation, which (alas) probably weighs a bit heavier in most women’s minds. That said, I doubt most guys feel strongly about it. Bad metaphor, but why look a gift horse in the mouth? We’re usually just thankful to be getting some.

Gay Single Guy (Jay Dyckman): What is period sex?  Is that like when you tell someone “You and I are having sex.  Period.”?  If so, I am all for that.  If it has to do with a certain monthly ritual, uh, not so much.  I guess it depends on how nice your sheets are. I like “True Blood” and all too but let’s not go crazy.

Our “wise guys” are a rotating group of contributors, some of whom wish to remain anonymous and some of whom like the attention. This week’s Straight Married Guy is David Jacobs, a NYC-based photographer; our Gay Guy is Jay Dyckman, an LA copywriter; and our Single Straight Guy is Tyler Barnett of Tyler Barnett PR in LA. To ask the guys your own question, click here. To ask the guys your own question, click here.



29 Comments

  1. Period sex is totally most natural and creates a stronger bondage and intimacy,there’s nothing taboo whatsoever about period sex and it’s a beautiful,most gorgeous experience to ever have in life

  2. My husband refuses to touch me when I’m on my period.. problem is, due to a medical condition my period lasts 10-20 days of the month. He says that ‘it’s gross!’ which really upsets me.. but i obviously can’t make him if he is uncomfortable.

    1. He is missing out on 10 to 20 chances for some great sex, and depriving you of your right to a good lover.

  3. i did it to this girl last week on our first date. weird huh but the chemistry was off the charts. it was messy, soiled the sheets an towel then she was like stop its too gross. and 20 mins later she rode my dick until she cum twice. i loved it only one problem all the blood made the pussy kinda slippery

  4. ^ JUST a condom? Are you crazy? This is the female PERIOD we’re talking about!

    If you want to survive period sex, you need to get a wetsuit, cut out a hole in it for your wiener, put on the condom, then get in the wetsuit so that absolutely no skin is exposed.

    I’m just glad I got to you before you got yourself killed.

  5. I got told my cock would fall off and that i would contract every std going… curious as i am i scoured the internet looking for answers to my problem and all it came up with was i will be fine just use a condom…. just because theres a bigger risk of infection and shit…

  6. Why is the opinion of a gay man on this article listed? Complete waste of a response. Of course he’s not interested in period sex…. Just stupid.

  7. K –

    I’m so glad you brought up Softcup… I ordered a sample pack a couple weeks ago and I’m really excited to try it out tomorrow when I stay with my boyfriend. Is there any advice/tips on how to use? Do you really not even feel it? I’ve been with my partner for a year and we’ve had period sex once or twice, but I can tell he’s not really into it so I have never pushed the issue during that time. If these are as great as they sound, I’m excited!

  8. I find that the mere thought of having sex during her period will give an instant hard on. We have always combined the mess with another thing I enjoy.
    I love to watch my lady apply lipstick, the more the better, and the redder the better, and then while we have sex we do deep kissing and I have the intense pleasure of smearing and kissing her lipstick off, sometime she even put reapplies it if it disapears to fast. This combined with a heavy blood flow is a real turn-on and blood is not the only thing that flows heavily.

  9. I’ve had period sex a few times and to be honest I’m not too crazy about it. I’m hornier than usual a few days before my period, but as for having sex during, it’s uncomfortable for me and I feel anything but sexy. It just feels like nothing should be up there during that time except tampons. Of course toward the end of my period its not as bad but the first couple of days, forget it! Another thing that I’m surprised no one has mentioned is the odor. Period blood doesn’t exactly have a pleasant smell, particularly the last couple of days. I’m not sure if that’s a non-factor for most people but it sure is for me.

  10. Bloodless sex is possible at that time of the month if you use an instead softcup. I also prefer them to tampons and pads even when I am not doing the deed, since they do not have to be changed nearly as often and they don’t dry out the vag’ or chafe. Sometimes you can even “forget” you are on the rag.

    http://www.softcup.com/

  11. My husband and I regularly have sex during my period. It helps my moods and it helps my cramps – I’m also incredibly horny during my period. He used to take my tampon out for me (the intimacy of that is amazing) but now I find if we keep a small tampon in he can push it up across my cervix and we can have blood free sex. Just remember to hook it out immediately afterwards and replace it. You really don’t want to forget about it. Shower sex is great too.
    By the way, a good orgasm will produce uterus spasms which clear out a whole load of period blood – so wear an extra large tampon or towel afterwards! You’ll notice your period is over quicker!! Yay!!

  12. WOMEN CAN GO to there doctor the new shot they have is available where you can get your period once a year or every 6 months . Stop complaing periods are no big deal anymore thanks to science

  13. alida,
    yes i agree with the last post. that is pretty major. ive been there i think. seems that you have low self esteem and you are wanting his acceptance. (so sorry if im wrong)…sometimes through sex maybe? does he make you feel happy in other ways? do u feel secure with him otherwise? sounds like its really bothering you a lot. im sorry 🙁 hope you get it worked out.

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