Wise Guys: When Is a Boob Job Warranted?

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Advice from three of our guy friends. This week a straight woman asks, “I think my boobs are too small — slightly pudgy guys have bigger boobs than me! Should I get a boob job?”

Gay Committed Guy (Mark): Gut response: No. Even though god knows how many Americans have some kind of body-image hangup, I don’t think “society” is shaming those pudgy guys into getting lipo on their manboobs in order to look more attractive to women. That said, if you think the pain and possible health risks associated with surgery and/or implants are worth it — if you really think it would improve your self-esteem, and you’ve exhausted all other options toward that end — it’s your decision. Anyone who tells you that you “should” get a boob job is either a creep or a plastic surgeon or an editor at Us Weekly magazine (the latter of which will be the first to mock your new rack for looking fake). I have friends who have had minor work done — breasts (adding and subtracting), eyes, nose, thighs, tummy — and they’ve all been pleased with the results. Obviously, if you do decide to go through with it, find a reputable doctor, and don’t go overboard with ridiculous porn-star balloons that are out of proportion with the rest of your body.

Straight Single Guy (Max): It kills me not to automatically say “Don’t do it!”, but I think it actually depends on a couple of things. Confidence, as you know, matters more than most factors when it comes to attraction. If you can’t talk to a guy because you’re too self conscious about the size of your boobs, then you need to do something. But plastic surgery might not be the answer. Boobs, as I and most guys see them, are always and only bonuses. If a girl has nice boobs, that’s great. But I’m not going to see a girl and think “Man, if she only had bigger boobs…” That’s just stupid. (If, however, this is the kind of guy you want, then by all means, get a boob job.) Personally, I think fake boobs are gross. I believe that most guys agree, no matter how much porn would have you believe otherwise. But again, you gotta do what makes you feel sexy. (Oh, and please don’t compare yourself to pudgy guys. That’s the first step in gaining a little self confidence.)

Straight Married Guy (Ben): My wife’s boobs have changed sooo much over the course of our relationship — from tiny to a handful to size F after our baby was born (we didn’t even know they made size F!) and then back to C. Each step of the way I’ve been right there enjoying them. It’s actually been one of the most amazing things about her body. That’s not to say your boobs are one day going to blossom or grow, but what’s made my wife’s body so immensely pleasurable for me and for her is her own comfort and confidence with it. Sexy does not equal boob size. Sexy equals feeling good and being confident in yourself and your sexuality. I say, learn to rock those nubs! You can always get the surgery later. Or have a baby.

Our “wise guys” are a rotating group of contributors, some of whom wish to remain anonymous and some of whom like the attention. This week’s Straight Married Guy is Ben, a writer and artist living in Los Angeles who runs AdultParlorGames.com. Our Committed Gay Guy, Mark, is a writer and teacher in NYC and our Single Straight Guy, Max, is a recent college grad in New England — both asked us to file them under “shy.” To ask the guys your own question, click here.


  1. I just want to say that I’m 5’1″, 105 lbs, and I naturally had DD’s. It was horrible, and really crippled my self-esteem throughout high school. Even though they were all natural, they looked really out of place on my frame, so I had to deal with people calling them fake, and I never wanted to talk to guys because my boobs were all they concentrated on [it seemed].

    But then I got them reduced to C’s, and got a lift thrown in, and my life completely turned around. It was amazing how much better things were when I loved my body and the way I looked. Everything guys are saying about confidence making the woman is true – I’ve never wanted for male or female attention now, and really the attention started pouring on the second I started loving myself.

    Even with C’s though, I sometimes wish I was smaller, just because the fashion industry now focuses on clothing for smaller breasted girls! So if you have A’s or B’s, then you can probably wear just about anything you want, and I’m mildly jealous! I would never change anything else about my body though, not with surgery. If it’s not a crippling issue for you, then learn to love it, I think.

    Also, on the actual surgery aspect, it’s almost two years later and I still get nervous about if the scars are too noticeable. No one has seemed to care, but I do know that implants require a lot more work than a reduction and your scars will be worse. Think about it, before you do that to your body.

  2. i will chime in and say boob size is very unimportant to me as i find confidence way more sexy than big boobs. besides its all about the nipple anyways!

  3. Implanters beware…I have gotten a boob job after my final child was born due to the fact I breast fed all my children,Ive become limp but not flat therefore I got the tear drop inorder to fill my boobs in well I started off with a C-cup, 20yrs later I am now doubleDDs what progress they still do grow. So ladiess beware even though you have increase them nature may not be finish in developing you yet. Food 4 thought!

  4. I’m a 19-year-old girl with A cups, and I would never, ever get implants. Aside from the fact that I find plastic surgery in general gross, I like my breasts the way they are. In fact, I think I’d be unhappy with anything larger than a B. My breasts don’t get in the way, and painful bouncing has never been an issue. Also, I think proportion is more important than size – I am 5’0 and 105 lbs, and large breasts would look ridiculous on my body.

  5. Size seems to matter only to women, i guess it’s the greed built into them, men are more concerned with reality. Come as you are seems to be the motto of most men.

  6. Well, I’m proportioned 39-28-40, and my boobs are at a D, but they make me self-concious alot of the time. I miss having a C, because now that they’ve decided to grow I’ve gotten ridiculous amounts of male attention. I’m not shy, just scared sometimes lol. What I mean to say is, large perky breasts can be great. But everything has its risks.

  7. Katie . . . if you’re looking for a real corset, you can definitely find them for larger boobs (I’m a C to D involved in the fetish scene and have some awesome corsets.) It’s true that the sort of flimsy wedding-y garments on sale at Victoria’s Secret may not fit, but if you shop at a corset shop (Dark Garden and Stormy Leather are awesome, check them out online) you can find the right look for any figure. And yes, a well-made corset with steel boning is expensive (my gorgeous red silk one cost $350, but I have some that were only about $100), but it will look amazing and last forever.

  8. haha Lynn did you know that corsets are really built for girls with small chests? Victoria’s Secret doesn’t sell corsets above a cup size C–go check for yourself! I’ve always wanted to buy one but being a D, I’d have to chalk up a lot of dough at a higher-end lingerie store to find one. A larger rack squeezed at the top of a corset causes creases near your armpit–really not that attractive at all.

  9. Tiny boobs, here. Then again, I’m still a tad young (almost 20), and since I’ve had problems maintaining weight, I think once I get that down, I’ll be fine. They’re already getting bigger.

    The only reason I have ever wanted implants was so I’d fit into corsets better. They look funny when there isn’t anything squeezed at the top. 😀

  10. Yeah, large breasts are overrated. I’m a DD and it’s so hard to find clothes that fit and that don’t make you look top-heavy, and bras that support me properly. Not to say that I don’t like them 🙂 but boobs don’t make the woman.

  11. What a great conversation 🙂

    I love em all, shapes and sizes. As already stated, it’s not the size, it’s how a woman rocks them. Quite honestly, give me a flat-chested woman with hips, and I’m all over her 🙂

  12. I am a mom of two girls. Naturally, I have “Mommy boobs” that arent the full C I used to have at 19. It makes me feel self-conscious when I look at other women that arent moms and have full boobs and they seem more confident in themselves than I do…I want to get a boob job but their father tells me he’s soooo against fake but I find him looking at other females boobs sometimes. Idk what to do, but I dont feel sexy anymore.

  13. I am a 50 year old woman and love my boobs the size they are. I have never had implants and do not feel I need them. I am a you get what you see and if your significant other does not like what you have then, he is very shallow. A man does not love you for your boobs, he loves you for the person you are. I have found most men like a confident woman and will relate better to a confident woman than one that is shy. Nothing wrong with being shy, just come out of your shell some. Life is full of surprises and “You are who you are boobs or no boobs.”

  14. I never thought I would be the type of woman to have a breast augmentation but after I went from a size 14 to a size 2 there was nothing left. just two empty sacks where my breast once were. I had a lift and implants and know one can tell. I chose the smallest size that fit my frame and they were place under the muscle not on top. I had no pain a feel like myself again.

  15. Some time ago my firm did research among women with very large breasts. (Client was a clothing firm.) Uniformly they told horror stories: pain, difficulty with shopping and many normal tasks, all problems increasing as they aged, and inappropriate male attention. Be careful what you wish for; you may get it.

  16. never,just wait they will grow once ur hubby starts to enjoy them,and yes i’m into small just a mouthfull is gr8 for me,but no bigger than a C and perky cuz i hate the smell from those that sag.

  17. I got implants 4 years ago, but it wasn’t really about size for me. After I finished breastfeeding my second child and losing some weight, my boobs just evaporated. It was like I had two empty balloons tacked to my chest. I HATED the way I looked naked and didn’t want my husband to look at or touch me. I visited several plastic surgeons until I found one I liked and trusted. He was the only one who didn’t insist I get a lift as well (I had no desire to look like a forty year old woman with 22 year old boobs!). I am delighted with my new body but I would advise any young woman to wait until after having kids to even think about it.

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