Straight Single Guy (Max): The only thing that I know is that meeting the parents has got to be planned and discussed ahead of time. The only time that I’ve ever felt it was “too soon” was when I didn’t know that I was about to meet the parents. God, that was an awkward walk of shame. Otherwise, I think that it’s a nice thing to get out of the way. What if you date someone for months and months only to find that your parents don’t like them? That would be a bummer. It’s best to introduce everyone and start working on forming a solid relationship, even if it has to be an awkward one.
Straight Married Guy (Ben): Five months. Anytime before that is too soon, even if they’re just breezing in and out of town. And if you haven’t met them by the one-year-mark, the relationship really isn’t going anywhere.
Gay Single Guy (Justin Huang): You should definitely meet the parents before you move in together, just out of respect. Other than that, it’s really case-by-case. Just don’t overthink it. Some parents are really chill and you’ll just be another trick to them. Of course, if he or she makes a big deal out of it and makes you rent a tux, maybe it’s a good time to reconfirm that both of you are on the same page in your relationship.
Our “wise guys” are a rotating group of contributors, some of whom wish to remain anonymous and some of whom like the attention. This week’s Straight Married Guy is Ben, a writer and artist living in Los Angeles who runs AdultParlorGames.com; our Gay Guy is Justin Huang, an LA-based freelance film editor, producer, certified personal trainer and the voice of IAmYellowPeril.com; and our Single Straight Guy, Max, is a recent college grad in New York City. To ask the guys your own question, click here.