10/22/12
Your Call: How Can I Find Women Who Are Hot AND Smart?

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Dear Em & Lo,

About five months ago I broke up with my girlfriend of two years and have met someone new. The other day the new girl and I were talking about various things, ideas, etc., which led me to discover that this new girl is significantly dumber (like really stupid) compared to my previous girlfriend. My problem is that I’m really worried about having a relationship with her, because my ex was extremely intelligent. I go to a top school, I have a high IQ, and I value intelligence. I like to make fun of dumb girls. I feel really disappointed (since the new girl is hot, like a 9 or a 10, which I also value) and I know that my ex set a really high standard. Am I bad person for only liking girls who are extremely smart? Why can’t good-looking girls come with their IQs tattooed onto their wrist or something? The problems and surprises that would solve.

— Intelligentist

What should Intelligentist do? Let him know in the comments below.

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13 Comments on "Your Call: How Can I Find Women Who Are Hot AND Smart?"


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Emily
3 years 3 months ago

To find a woman who is both beautiful and hot stop being so critical. You come off as a total tool in this letter with the whole rating women on hotness and making fun of dumb girls gambit. Beauty is defined as not only how a woman looks but who she is and how she treats people. It is entirely possible to find a woman who is both beautiful and intelligent but you will be better positioned to find her if you drop the whole superiority complex you have (that would turn off the women I have known over the… Read more »

Compagno
3 years 3 months ago

Hanna has said it all, except for stating explicitly that the problem is narcissism. Let her go; she will thank you.

hanna
3 years 3 months ago

Yeah, all these comments are spot on. There are tons of hot, intelligent women, but the truly smart ones don’t wanna go out with arrogant, superficial people. Is your “9 or 10” a dingbat? I guess it’s possible, but frankly, I doubt you’ve given her a chance to really shine anyway. I mean, it’s true that a lot of women are socialized to let these guys who identify as “high IQ, top school blah” go on and on about how smart they are while they nod and smile. Not all women want to engage in regular tongue lashings and verbal… Read more »

sg
3 years 3 months ago

first, i am in love with the earlier comments and am happy to see such intelligent, funny people here.

increase your own stock, because who the hell isn’t vying for the smartest and hottest among us.

then, be ready for insecurity and jealousy, as you try to hold on to your prize.

don’t forget to look for & be humble, kind, & sane.

Tracie
3 years 3 months ago

You clearly don’t respect this woman, and any future you have with her is going to be built on your perceived intellectual superiority. Nobody wants to be looked on – even “really stupid” people. Let her go and give her the chance to find someone who adores her inside and out, instead of someone who only wants her for her T&A.

jillian
3 years 3 months ago

You’re not a bad person for only liking girls who are extremely smart. You’re a bad person for a whole set of entirely separate reasons.

dallas
3 years 3 months ago

I agree with Johnny’s point here, that a so-called “hot” woman may come off as a total dingbat because all she’s ever needed to get by in life and all she’s ever praised for are her looks. However, if you want a trophy girlfriend, this is a sacrifice you have to make. Are you cool with having some smokin’ eye candy, even though you know the minute she opens her mouth she’s going to have nothing relevant or stimulating to say? Or would you be willing to find a girl who may not be a so-called “10” but can actually… Read more »

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