10/22/12
Your Call: How Can I Find Women Who Are Hot AND Smart?

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Dear Em & Lo,

About five months ago I broke up with my girlfriend of two years and have met someone new. The other day the new girl and I were talking about various things, ideas, etc., which led me to discover that this new girl is significantly dumber (like really stupid) compared to my previous girlfriend. My problem is that I’m really worried about having a relationship with her, because my ex was extremely intelligent. I go to a top school, I have a high IQ, and I value intelligence. I like to make fun of dumb girls. I feel really disappointed (since the new girl is hot, like a 9 or a 10, which I also value) and I know that my ex set a really high standard. Am I bad person for only liking girls who are extremely smart? Why can’t good-looking girls come with their IQs tattooed onto their wrist or something? The problems and surprises that would solve.

— Intelligentist

What should Intelligentist do? Let him know in the comments below.

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14 Comments on "Your Call: How Can I Find Women Who Are Hot AND Smart?"

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Jazz
I feel like a lot of the women posting here are giving you very typical 21st century, 4th-wave feminist type answers. Bullshit on all that, here’s a man’s perspective. It’s hard man! Welcome to my world, and I’m sure the many smart and attractive women who no doubt find it hard to find their equal in a man. If you find a girl who you’re really attracted to and that you also find pretty, you stay with that girl. It ain’t a combo that comes around a lot. A no ladies, a person’s insides alone cannot make you sexually attracted… Read more »
Emily
To find a woman who is both beautiful and hot stop being so critical. You come off as a total tool in this letter with the whole rating women on hotness and making fun of dumb girls gambit. Beauty is defined as not only how a woman looks but who she is and how she treats people. It is entirely possible to find a woman who is both beautiful and intelligent but you will be better positioned to find her if you drop the whole superiority complex you have (that would turn off the women I have known over the… Read more »
Compagno

Hanna has said it all, except for stating explicitly that the problem is narcissism. Let her go; she will thank you.

hanna
Yeah, all these comments are spot on. There are tons of hot, intelligent women, but the truly smart ones don’t wanna go out with arrogant, superficial people. Is your “9 or 10” a dingbat? I guess it’s possible, but frankly, I doubt you’ve given her a chance to really shine anyway. I mean, it’s true that a lot of women are socialized to let these guys who identify as “high IQ, top school blah” go on and on about how smart they are while they nod and smile. Not all women want to engage in regular tongue lashings and verbal… Read more »
sg

first, i am in love with the earlier comments and am happy to see such intelligent, funny people here.

increase your own stock, because who the hell isn’t vying for the smartest and hottest among us.

then, be ready for insecurity and jealousy, as you try to hold on to your prize.

don’t forget to look for & be humble, kind, & sane.

Tracie

You clearly don’t respect this woman, and any future you have with her is going to be built on your perceived intellectual superiority. Nobody wants to be looked on – even “really stupid” people. Let her go and give her the chance to find someone who adores her inside and out, instead of someone who only wants her for her T&A.

jillian

You’re not a bad person for only liking girls who are extremely smart. You’re a bad person for a whole set of entirely separate reasons.

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