Your Call: How Can I Orgasm with My Partner?

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Dear Em & Lo,

I’m a 30-year-old woman and my partner and I have been sexually active for sometime now, and I’m never had an orgasm with him. He tries his hardest to help me orgasm but I never do. I’m starting to feel like there is something wrong! Should I see my doctor and speak with her about it?

Feeling Blue

What should F.B. do? Leave your advice for her in the comments section below.



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2 Comments on "Your Call: How Can I Orgasm with My Partner?"

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For me I know it’s all in my head. If I’m really stressed, no way I’ll get there. If I have some sort of issues with my lover, no way. Etc etc. If, however, I can manage to be on good terms with my own self and my lover – boom! Or if I can manage to stay in the kind of denial that allows for relaxation! 😉 This probably varies, perhaps some women can get off simply by using the right mechanics. I agree with the above, if you make coming a goal of the sex session, it can… Read more »
“He tries his hardest to help me orgasm but I never do.” This might sound silly or obvious but are you relying on him to get you there or are you taking a, um, hand in the process as well? I’m asking because for many years I thought of myself as the “provider” of orgasms not just for myself but for my partners as well. I didn’t become a good lover, I don’t think, till I learned that orgasms aren’t given so much as shared or even taken. This is particularly important, I think, for two big reasons. First, because… Read more »