We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section. Warning: This week’s is a toughie!
Dear Em & Lo,
To set the scenario: my husband and I have been married for 27 years. Sex was always a big part of our marriage but as we have aged our sex drive has slowly dropped. What really did it for me was having a hysterectomy 5 years ago. Since the surgery I don’t seem to have any sex drive. Or at least with him. My husband is complaining that once a month is not enough for him, but I view it as a chore now, and one I’m not particularly fond of.
I should mention I’m 57 and my husband is 64. He is disabled and spends his day watching tv and playing video games. I work full-time night shifts and all house and yard responsibilities fall on me. I’m sure resentment is involved with my lack of desire for him. Oh, and I don’t have the money to go to a counselor. Any advice?
— Not Feeling It
What words of wisdom do you have for N.F.I.? Leave your advice in the comments section below.