We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section.
Dear Em & Lo,
Five-ish months ago, I broke up with my first boyfriend. Obviously, there were problems, but it was a really significant relationship. And, there were some really great things about it: the sex; the emotional and intellectual chemistry; feeling sexy, attractive, and flirty; etc.
About two months post-break up, I figured it was time to re-enter the dating pool. I didn’t want to lose the “I’m sexy, attractive, and flirty” feeling I had in the relationship. But, the more I dated, the more crazy, desperate, and insecure I became. Also, the more I dated, the more I missed the ex. I figured it was in my best interest to stop dating, truly get over the ex, and be alone until I was okay being alone.
I sort of miss the ex from time to time, but that’s pretty much over. However, I really hate this being alone stuff. So, my question(s) for you is this: How do you re-enter the dating pool? How do you get out of the I’m-lonely-and-just-want-someone-to-cuddle-with phase and back into the how-many-men-can-I-seduce-tonight mode?
— Water Wings
What should W.W. do? Leave advice for her in the comments section below.