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I I truly enjoy sex with my boyfriend, but I don’t orgasm through sex. We are a relatively new couple, and he hasn’t learned how to get me off reliably with oral sex. There is a problem with his orgasm,
My fairly new boyfriend hasn’t learned yet how to get me off reliably with oral sex. He recently told me that when he performs oral sex on me, I am too quiet and, in his opinion, need to be more vocal and give more direction. I did do this once, and while he took the direction then and there, he hasn’t applied that advice to any subsequent, um, interactions. I’m afraid by constantly telling him what to do, it’ll sound patronizing, like I’m suggesting he doesn’t know anything about female anatomy. And I’m afraid it will sound like I’m complaining he can’t get me off. I just don’t want to end up offending him, especially since he has made valiant efforts. It’s not like he’s bad at sex — he just hasn’t learned my body completely yet. So how can I communicate what he should do — how he can hit the right spot — without being condescending?
— Thigh & Dry
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