Your Call – I Hate It When My GF Dances with Other Guys

Dear Em & Lo,

I’ve been with my girlfriend for over two years and I still get very upset when other guys ask her to dance. I understand she’s not doing anything wrong, just going out and having a good time. I assume it’s because I’m just very scared of losing her. I think it sort of bothers me I feel like she goes out and gets all done up and then ends up on the dance floor which I feel like invites this contact.

I know many guys would feel proud or something that other guys are interested in their girl, but I suppose I am insecure. I don’t think I get overly jealous about most things with our relationship, but for some reason this drives me crazy. Again I understand the way society invites guys to approach girls and all is not her fault or anything, but I can’t help getting upset when this happens. I don’t know why this affects me, do you have any advice?

— Just a Jealous Guy

What should Jealous Guy do? How can he tame the green-eyed beast? Advise him in the comments section below.

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22 Comments on "Your Call – I Hate It When My GF Dances with Other Guys"

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It really depends on how the relationship is built and on their values. As a highly educated guy from a good family, I have very clear boundaries both physical and intellectual. This means that I become uncomfortable if someone gets too close to me. However, other people are educated differently and like to be flirty even when married. My current girlfriend comes from a very strange family with many divorces from both sides of the family. I strongly disagree when she goes out and I made my case very clear the first time that happened. I just told her that… Read more »
im in a bit of the same boat, I hate when my girlfriend goes out and dances with other guys. Mine actually had the balls to dance with the nastiest, fattest, ugliest, missing tooth guy on fuckin New years. I dont even know what the fuck she was thinking. It wasnt grinding, it was dancing no hands but the little fucker was like “oh yeah, get it, get it” and that shit made my blood boil. I grabbed her and told her she better cut that shit out cause its pissing me the fuck off. I love what Kalle and… Read more »
Omg are you people for real? My girl ain’t allowed to dance with other guys and since she has common sense so she knows why. I ain’t the jealous type, I know my own self worth. Women these days think it’s cool for them to grind on other guys, have sleep overs with their guy “besties” etc etc. And y’all “men” are allowing it to happen because you don’t want to be seen as “insecure” or “jealous”. Fuck that, you know you are dying a bit inside when she does this to you, the only real insecurity is not acting… Read more »

Isn’t dancing supposed to be romantic and emotional? I understand that it can be fun to dance and all but I think even with my girlfriend, If I was having my hands all over another hot girl I would be getting sexually aroused by her. Which seems kind of lame to me when the woman I love is right there. It just seems like girls should dance with other girls if they have a significant other. Just as men should just have fun with the dudes if they are in a relationship.


Johnny,how are you able to read my mind! Great answer.
Jealousize indeed.


Here’s the deal… My girlfriend dances swing and salsa and it absolutely drives me effing crazy! I can’t stand the fact that some other dude has his hands all over her! I can’t go with her because I know if I did I would end up in jail for poping each one of those little bastards!


so what came of it? you guys still together


Sorry, mary, but you’re an idiot. There are lots of places where people go to just DANCE. Not drink, not hook up, just dance. If the poster was going home alone, he’d have something to worry about. He doesn’t mention that happening, so we can surmise that his girl is going home with him. If she’s going home with him, she clearly has no interest in any of the dudes she danced with that evening, aside from simply dancing with them.