2/26/09
Your Call: Should He Return the Favor?

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We feel just awful that we can’t answer every single advice question we get, but we figure that any answer is better than no answer at all. Which is why, every now and then, we’ll let you guys decide how to advise a reader. Make your call by filling out the poll after the jump:

Dear Em & Lo

My guy loves it when I go down on him but he rarely goes down on me he says that he isn’t into it. Is it normal for a guy to be like that and be straight? I mean I will continue to go down on him but I think he should return the favor. Am I wrong for wanting that?

— Stuck on a One-Way Street


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23 Comments on "Your Call: Should He Return the Favor?"

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Петр Сычев
6 years 10 months ago

Вот это да… Какой кошмар!

Slartibartfast
Slartibartfast
6 years 11 months ago
While I generally share the outlook that “What’s sauce for the goose is sauce for the gander” and appreciate a spirit of reciprocity, I don’t know that the ‘nuclear option’ is the best first choice here. Allowing that the relationship is otherwise pretty seaworthy, I’d be interested in knowing *why* the fella objects. Are there specific aesthetic issues or does the very idea inspire a convulsive, involuntary “Ewwwww”? In the former case, there could be approaches that would deal with his concerns, solve the immediate problem and leave him a better person. If it’s just a flat-out refusal, well, that… Read more »
chelle
chelle
6 years 11 months ago

i couldn’t handle that, total dealbreaker for me. the way it see it… you guys obviously are not sexually compatible. i think if you’re someone that really enjoys getting head, and he’s not giving it, eventually you will resent him for it or cheat on him..

carrieanne
carrieanne
7 years 1 month ago
I had a smilar situation, my advice to you is that if he’s not that into it…get him into it. Try ways to “spice it up”. Be adventurous and it will pay off. My husband and I may frequent strip clubs, go and buy sex toys together, watch some X rated movies. What happened for me was that my husband was more into it, was excited. It wasnt so much a “chore” or “returning the favor”. I Love going down on him, so a strike would be as much a sacrifice for me as him (almost as much 🙂 ..… Read more »
c
c
7 years 1 month ago

my guy had this problem for a while and after talking about it over and over and how important it was to me and how it’s a deal breaker if he doesn’t do it, after a blowjob strike he’s been doing it. it’s like him living without oral is what he needed to realize what it was like for me.

Meghan
Meghan
7 years 1 month ago

There’s nothing wrong with not wanting to give head, but if that’s the case, you certainly can’t expect your partner to give you any. Regardless of gender.

Kate
Kate
7 years 1 month ago

I don’t think that Stuck gives enough details for us to really give good advice. Have they talked about the issue? Does he refuse to go down on her completely or does he only do it “rarely?” (which it seems does not satisfy Stuck’s needs) Her final question is easy to answer (no! you are not wrong for wanting head) but since we don’t know much else about their relationship, it’s hard to choose an answer from the poll.

And for the record, if the situation were reversed according to gender, I would have the same opinion.

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