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Dear Em & Lo,
I have been with my boyfriend for about a year. I have a very hard time having an orgasm from him going down on me. He is always more than willing to go down on me (as I am on him), but I know it frustrates him that I don’t orgasm every time (or even most times). I have orgasmed from manual stimulation once or twice and a couple of times from oral sex.
We are comfortable enough with each other that sometimes when he’s failed to bring me to orgasm, I’ve masturbated in front of him until I had an orgasm (which he enjoys). I know it’s easier for me to do it than it is for him because I’ve had a little more practice, but how can I help him? We are relatively comfortable talking about sexual issues, but we are usually both so frustrated by the end of the experience that we just want to go to sleep. He tries so hard that it makes me feel bad when it doesn’t happen. What should I do?
— Orally Unfixated
What should O.U. do?