Your Call: Why Does My BF Look at Naked Pics of Celebs?

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Dear Em & Lo,

I’m 25 and my BF is 24. Our sex life dwindled just like every other live-in couple, from once-twice day to once in ten-fifteen days. Whatever. My problem is he searches for porn videos and naked pics of almost each and every good-looking celebrity (actor/singer/sports personalities/anyone really!) he sees on TV.

It’s gotten to such a point that I feel uncomfortable even watching movies with him without feeling that the next thing he’ll do is go online and start his business. Is this normal? Do all men do this? I don’t mind him looking up porn videos of porn stars (that’s their job, duh) but almost everyone he sees on TV? Isn’t that a bit immature and obsessive? Am I overreacting?

— Dating a Googleholic

What should D.A.G. do? Leave your advice in the comments section below.


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7 Comments on "Your Call: Why Does My BF Look at Naked Pics of Celebs?"

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I thought I was the only one who had a guy who did this but mines not 25 he’s 35! I don’t even like watching movies with him anymore because I know as soon as the actresss shows up I know he’s itching to google search her “nude” today was the best because last nite we watching a movie and I knew he wanted to “google search” but he couldn’t because I was right there but first thing this morning that’s what he did! To me it’s some sort of compulsion like OCD like. It drives me crazy it’s like… Read more »
I wish my situation happened a while back I am gonna tell you something important especially since I know your only gonna hurt more by this situation finding even more things that doesn’t make you feel like you are all he see’s. This goes for any other girl who feels a man should not watch porn or anything else that you don’t feel comfortable with. Move on if he won’t change for you at the first try because that means he is not thinking about your feelings and how it may be affecting you, you don’t want to marry a… Read more »

I’m curious as to what your relationship is like. Is it a supportive and caring relationship where you feel respected and appreciated, and your boyfriend also looks at porn, or not?

“Our sex life dwindled just like every other live-in couple, from once-twice day to once in ten-fifteen days. Whatever.” – this makes me wonder if there are other, more relationship-fundamental, problems besides his porn predilection.

If your relationship is doing well, then I wouldn’t worry nearly as much as if your relationship wasn’t doing well.

My advice is not to confront him about the porn, because if you make him feel guilty about it, he’ll just do it behind your back. He isn’t going to stop. The desire to look at naked people and people having sex is hard-wired into most men’s brains. If you don’t like the kind of porn he looks at, you’re probably in the same boat as the majority of women. And believe me, what he’s looking at is mild compared to what some ordinary, respectable men load in their browsers when in private. So my advice, focus on the major… Read more »
I am not exactly ok with that kind of behavior, and I think there are lots of women who agree. But maybe this is more invasive for you than just porn, since these are people you are going to see all the time, in movies, billboards, and on tv. So rather than just turning a blind eye to his porn use, you basically have it pushed in your face all the time. It’s just one step less removed, just like how you’d be more upset about him watching videos of a female friend having sex than a total stranger. The… Read more »

I only answered one part of your question.

No, looking at naked celebrities isn’t “immature”. That’s a nasty word often used to shame men for normal masculine behavior, just like “slut” is a nasty word used to shame women for normal, natural behavior. Men of all ages desire a look at the nude female form, so I don’t think it’s fair to imply that his behavior is somehow emotionally or psychologically under-developed.

Second, no, you are not over-reacting. He is neglecting you sexually, and that’s a major relationship foul. You’re right to be pissed.


I can’t speak for all men, but yes. Outliers aside, pretty much all men do this.

Some of us, however, feel a sense of sexual responsibility when it comes to satisfying our partners. I would never let my real-life sex life slide like that, nor would my gal tolerate it if I did.