We're in Naked Love on the Sundance Channel Blog

the Sundance Channel’s new blog The Sundance Channel has just launched a spiffy new blog called SUNfiltered. It’s got posts from various writers (e.g. Andrew Hearst and our new BFF Bobbie Redford) on culture, film, green issues, design, music, and love — “naked love“, to be exact. Yours truly will be contributing to the saucier […]

Wise Guys
How Can I Have a MMF Threeway?

Advice from three of our guy friends. This week a straight woman asks, “How can I can convince two hetero dudes to have a threeway with me?” Straight Single Guy (Max): Barring the possibility that you could trick these “hetero” dudes into your lair (using beer, snacks or Ahnold movies) I’d say that your best […]

Ladies, Do You Enjoy Your PS Spot?

photo by CarbonNYC Have you even heard of the P.S. Spot? Well, just beneath a woman’s perineum (that short bridge of tissue between the vaginal opening and the anus) is a tightly packed tangle of blood vessels known as the perineal sponge (hence, the P.S.). Like other erectile tissue, this mass fills with blood upon […]

Dear Em & Lo
Your Call: Should She Go Downtown?

photo by iandeth We feel just awful that we can’t answer every single advice question we get, but we figure that any answer is better than no answer at all. Which is why, once a week, we’ll let you guys decide how to advise a reader. Make your call by filling out the poll after […]

Do It Tonight
Do It Tonight! Be Kind to the Waitstaff

photo by independentman On a dinner date, always be courteous to the waitstaff. Never snap, clap, cry “Waiter,” or worse, “Garcon!” to get your attendant’s attention; wait until you catch your server’s eye, then simply nod, gently raise your eyebrows, or, as a last resort, raise your hand. Say please and thank you — never […]

Dream Interpretation
Dream Interpretation: My Mom Walked in on Me & Lil Wayne

photo by killa_kam Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. This week, a woman asks Lauri: I had this dream the other night where my mom and I were on vacation and the rapper I like, […]

Pop Culture
A New Word for Webster’s: Melon Balling

It’s official! That unspeakable term for the act involving a woman’s boobies and a man’s peen is out — and “melon balling” is in! Arbitrarily and without warning, we closed the polls today on the election of a new word to replace the awful…don’t make us say it (you know, it’s the one with the […]

Blog Snog (03-27-09)

photo by BruceTurner A weekly roundup of sex- and love-related posts from some of our favorite blogs and websites: A contributor to the new site Kiss and Dish writes an open letter to losers at nightclubs. Is the tween-version of Dora the Explorer just part of growing up or is she now Whora the Sexplorer? […]

Do It Tonight
Do It Tomorrow Night! Turn off the Lights

photo via Google Earth This Saturday, March 28th, at 8:30pm local time all around the world, individuals, companies, historical landmarks, towns and countries have committed to turning off the lights for one hour to highlight the threat of climate change. According to‘s Facebook page, Sydney turned off the lights in 2007 and cut their […]

What's Up Doc?
Dr. Kate: Bad Vibrations

photo by jacobms Dr. Kate is an OB/GYN at one of the largest teaching hospitals in New York City and she answers your medical questions here once a week. To ask her your own question, click here. A patient in my office last week confessed to me that she’s worried she’s hurt herself from too […]

Poll: Would You Rat Out a Cheater?

Our “Dear Em & Lo” advice column last week, in response to a reader who wanted to know what was so wrong with cheating on her husband, kicked off a passionate debate on this site. But forget nuance — let’s get your feedback in cold, hard statistics! If you knew your friend was being cheated […]

Top 10 Things Gossip Girl Taught Us About Sex

Back when we watched the original 90210, all we remember learning about sex was that if you didn’t sleep with your boyfriend on prom night, he might end up addicted to crystal meth. Oh, how times have changed. Here’s the Gossip Girl guide to sex… Never make a list of all the people you’ve ever […]

Dear Em & Lo
Dear Em & Lo: How Do I Deal with People Who Confuse Sex Educators with "Sluts"?

photo by soundfromwayout Dear Em & Lo, I’m a student activist/organizer at my university, and I’m involved with a student peer-education group (Sexual Health Awareness Peer Educators), as well as Students for Choice.  While I enjoy talking about sex, and many aspects of it, especially on a political basis (e.g. how can we support HR […]

Do It Tonight
Do It Tonight! Embrace Your Inner Goth

photo by jswieringa Here’s a quick science lesson for you: Scented and colored candles often contain plasticizers, which make them burn much hotter, i.e., way too hot for your sweetie’s fleshy parts. Black candles and beeswax candles burn the hottest of all. (Besides, what are you doing with black candles anyway? That’s so Trenchcoat Brigade.) […]

Personal Essays
Confession: Ugly Guys Make Better Booty Calls

Our contributor is a student at an East coast university. And that’s all she’s willing to say. Except this… I’m not attracted to attractive guys. Those Burberry-wearing, BMW-driving, weight-lifting, business-studying, fraternity hunks just don’t do it for me. At the end of the night, I know I’m booty-calling my chunky, red-haired, 800-dollar-car-driving, engineer boy — […]

Ladies: We Still Need Your Orgasm Breakthrough Moments!

photo by ellievanhoutte We’re just finishing up our magazine article on women’s orgasms, and we want to hear a few more stories from you: What happened when you first had an orgasm with a partner, or during intercourse, or with a vibrator…or without a vibrator. Or tell us how you became multi-orgasmic, or how you […]