How To
15 Steps to Stop Faking

photo still from MGM’s When Harry Met Salley As many as ten percent of women have never had an orgasm, and many more than that have never had an orgasm with a partner. And the more women fake, the worse these statistics will get. It’s time to take your orgasms into your own hands—quite literally, […]

Best 3-Minute Argument for Gay Marriage Ever

Passionate, eloquent, convincing, short and to the point — this is a defense of gay marriage made for the Internet. Zach Wahls, a 19-year-old University of Iowa engineering student, spoke out before the Iowa House of Representatives last week against a resolution which would end civil unions in that state by describing his life with […]

Wise Guys
Wise Guys – Is Painful Sex an Issue for Some Guys (Like It Is for Some Gals)?

Advice from three of our guy friends. This week a straight woman asks, “Considering all the questions the doctors on this site get about women experiencing painful intercourse, I was wondering: do guys ever experience pain during sex?” Straight Single Guy (Max): While the good normally outweighs the bad, I would say that yes, sex […]

Dream Interpretation
Dream Interpretation: I Lie to Husband About Sexy Dreams

photo by Helga Weber Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. This week, a reader asks Lauri: I love my husband, but lately I have been dreaming of another guy I don’t even know. In the […]

A Saucy — But Not Too Saucy — Valentine’s Day Gift

We know that some of you probably have the kind of relationship with your partner, friends, siblings — even parents? too much? — where a trusty Rabbit Habit, or perhaps even an oversized, double-ended dildo, is an acceptable Valentine’s Day present. And then there are those of you who’d like to move beyond chocolates, but […]

Blog Snog: 8 Craziest Bachelorettes Of All Time

TheFrisky: The 8 craziest Bachelorettes in “Bachelor” history. CollegeCandy: Guys look at themselves through beer googles. MyDaily: The 5 most common emotional vampires. YourTango: A gal’s guide to breaking up. TomFoolery: Why male sex toys are so sketchy. EdenFantasys’ Sexis: Is social media ruining your dating life? TresSugar: 5 tips for moving in together.

Pop Culture
Art Installation on America’s Dating Trends

If you’ve ever used online personals, you’ll love this: Through February 19th, Bit Gallery in New York City is showing R. Luke DuBois’s latest project, “A More Perfect Union,” which looks at American self-identity through the medium of online dating services: “Culling data from over twenty online dating sites, the work is organized according to […]

Dear Em & Lo
Your Call: My Husband and I Can’t Compromise on Porn

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call by leaving your advice in the comments section below: Dear Em & Lo, I have […]

Not Exactly Breaking News: Sexy News Anchors Distract Male Viewers

In a new study that will surprise, well, no one we can think of, two researchers at Indiana University have found that attractive, dolled up lady newscasters make it harder for male viewers to retain the information of the broadcast. Heh, we said broadcast. We’re sure that this research will usher in a new wave […]

Personal Essays
Confession: Making Masturbation a Sensation

photo by sebilden Our contributor Abby Spector, who is majoring in Feminine/Gender/Sexuality Studies at Wesleyan University, has a confession to make: I remember the day well. I was twelve and had stayed home from school. “I feel sick,” I told my parents. I was skilled at feigning illness, especially on days when there were math […]

What's Up Doc?
Dear Dr. Joe: Can Pre-Ejaculate Get a Woman Pregnant?

photo by rightee Once a month, Dr. Joe DeOrio, a urologist in Chicago, answers your questions on male sexual health. To ask him your own question, click here. Dear Dr. Joe, Can pre-ejaculate get a woman pregnant? — Leaky Dear Leaky, Pre-ejaculate, or “pre-cum,” as it is commonly known, is the predominantly clear fluid that […]

Comment of the Week: How to Treat Her on Valentine’s Day

Sioux, responding to the post “Your Call: What Should He Do for Valentine’s Day?”: Step 1: Bake something involved. I’m being serious. Find a recipe for something fancy, delicious, and sweet that you think would suit her taste. Does she like dark chocolate? Make truffles. Cupcakes? Find an interesting recipe and make a go for […]

How To
15 Do’s and Don’ts of Really Good Sex

photo by Helga Weber When you write about sex for a living, it’s easy to get caught up in the idea that we should always be inventing a new position or discovering a new erogenous zone. But sometimes it’s good just to remind ourselves of some basics. These 15 tips never go out of style […]

Naked News: Gagging Over Lady Gaga’s New Perfume

Ted Haggard reveals to GQ that he would identify as bisexual if it weren’t for, you know, God. But wait, didn’t God make him bisexual to begin with? Religion is confusing. Ubiquitous James Franco to play porn star Linda Lovelace’s former husband. New research suggests are no differences between heterosexuals and homosexuals or between women […]

Wise Guys
Wise Guys: Do Men Like Eye Contact During Sex?

Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: “Do guys like looking into their partner’s eyes while they’re having sex, and while they’re climaxing? Why or why not? And if a woman is with a man who never looks her in the eye during sex, what does that mean?” To […]