Naked News: Why Normal-Looking Porn Stars Are a Thret

photo via James Deen Blog Why porn that women actually like (i.e. with normal looking guys like James Dean, above) makes men so uncomfortable. You think you have a type when it comes to online dating, but according to researchers you actually don’t. The story of J. Edgar Hoover’s from someone who knows: the godson of […]

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Wise Guys: Can a Woman Get Her Man to Quit Porn?

photo via flickr Advice from three of’s guy friends. This week they answer the following: “Can a woman ever get her man to quit porn?” To ask the guys your own question, click here. Straight Engaged Guy (Mark Luczak): There are probably a lot of eventual branches to this question, depending on the reasoning […]

Raleigh Baptist Church Holds Out for Gay Marriage in North Carolina

photo via flickr A few years back we went on a cross-country road trip to promote our first book, The Big Bang. We knew that we’d find dirty minds (i.e. eager book buyers) in places like San Francisco and Portland, but we couldn’t believe how kinky things got in Raleigh, NC! One guy asked us […]

What If Your Sex Ed Teacher Wanted You to Enjoy Sex?

photo via We were big fans of Laurie Abraham’s even before she stopped by our book club recently and drank red wine with us while we interrogated her about her book, The Husbands and Wives Club: A Year in the Life of a Couples’ Therapy Group. She’s a smart and thoughtful (and funny) writer […]

Happy Thanksgiving Weekend!

photo by gamene This year, we’re thankful for you, our smart, thoughtful, funny, engaged readers and commenters. We’re also thankful that DADT was repealed, that legal gay marriage is sweeping the nation, that Planned Parenthood still exists despite the best efforts of some in Congress, and that there are safe, decent, beautiful toys made by […]

Blog Snog: What It Means to Be Gray-Sexual

photo via TheFrisky CollegeCandy: The 10 best places to hook up at home this Thanksgiving. TheFrisky: What it means to be gray-sexual. How About We: Reasons to be thankful you’re single this Thanksgiving. TresSugar: 5 date ideas to get you in the holiday spirit. YourTango: Is Hollywood killing monogamy? EdenFantasys’ Sexis: Faith, love, and open relationships. […]

Pop Culture
Fucking James Franco

photo via Flickr is a funding platform for music, film, art, technology, design, food, publishing and other creative projects. If a project doesn’t reach its stated funding goal before time runs out, no money changes hands. One art project that just met its $2000 goal before its closing date this coming Saturday thanks to over 100 backers is “Fucking James Franco,” a […]

Enter Our Haiku Contest, Win a Lelo

***THIS CONTEST IS NOW CLOSED*** We’re giving you even more opportunities to win a new luxury toy from the Insignia line by Lelo in our Sex Toy Haiku Contest! New Deadline: we’re extending the deadline until next end of the day Wednesday, the end of November, for those of you who need a little more time to […]

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Dear Dr. Vanessa: Can Being Overweight Affect Your Ability to Orgasm?

Every few weeks, Dr. Vanessa Cullins, a board-certified obstetrician/gynecologist and vice president for medical affairs at Planned Parenthood® Federation of America, will be answering your questions on To ask her your own question, click here. Dear Dr. Vanessa, Can obesity affect a woman’s ability to orgasm? — California Queen Dear CQ, The science on […]

Naked News: Female Gamers Have More Sex

Study shows that female online gamers have — gasp! — more sex than women who don’t play games. Also, more than half of online gamers are women. (We’re assuming the researchers checked to make sure the respondents weren’t teen boys pretending to be sexed up women!) Readers criticize the New York Times for conflating “rape” and […]

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Em & Lo Need a Few Good GAY Men

photo via Flickr Flamboyant, straight-seeming, drag queening…whatever! If you’re gay, opinionated, lady loving (in the platonic sense) and have a good relationship with spell check, then we want you to be one of our Wise Guys! We got a great round of new straight men from our last Wise Guy search but still need a […]

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Dream Interpretation: I’m Crushing on My Boyf’s BFF

photo by applescruff Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex. Each week, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg tells one lucky reader what their dirty dream means. Got a dream you want Lauri to analyze? Click here to submit it) This week, a reader asks Lauri: I have a slight crush on my […]

How Different Are Girls’ and Boys’ Brains?

It’s a favorite question of ours…okay, of mine (i.e. Lo’s). And my personal answer is that yes, there are differences, but not as many or as great as our culture likes to assume or presume. And that bias we have as a society actually influences the development of boys’ and girls’ brains (which are elastic) […]

Blog Snog: 11 Ways He Says ‘I Love You’

photo via Flickr CollegeCandy: 11 ways he says I love you. How About We: 5 easy ways to set yourself up for better sex. TresSugar: Miss Piggy’s advice for single girls. YourTango: 11 things women don’t understand about men. EdenFantasys’ Sexis: Is there such a thing as female privilege? TheFrisky: On the matter of Justin […]

Enter Our Haiku Contest, Win an Oden from Lelo!

*READ OUR UPDATED CONTEST POST, WITH NEW RULES, A NEW DEADLINE AND AN EXTRA PRIZE HERE!* We’ve teamed up with our friends at Lelo to give away a brand new, luxury, wireless remote-controlled, vibrating couples’ ring: the Oden. This is a $179 sex toy, people! The Oden is part of Lelo’s new Insignia line of […]

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Dear Dr. Kate, How Long Do STDs Take to Show Up on Tests?

photo via Flickr Dr. Kate is an OB/GYN at one of the largest teaching hospitals in New York City and she answers your medical questions every few weeks on To ask her your own question, click here. Dear Dr. Kate, How soon after sexual relations would an STD test register a newly transmitted virus? […]