We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section.
I’ve been married for almost 20 years. I often fantasize about kissing other people. Not even having sex with them, just kissing them, just to feel that rush once again. Not necessarily anyone in particular, and maybe even just once would be enough. I love my partner and am not interested in ruining my marriage. I’m in it til the end. But I’m wondering if making out with someone, like while out of town, is just as bad as shagging them. I know both are deceitful, but one seems so much worse than the other. Could the more innocent indiscretion be justified if it just scratched an itch, didn’t disrupt my marriage, and made me happier without hurting my partner?
— Sealed with a Kiss