A few weeks ago, Pete had some interesting (and some potentially controversial) thoughts in response to our post”If Men Ask About Their Size, Can I Tell Him the Truth?” His answer? Basically, “Yes, tell him the truth gently, with helpful tips thrown in.” Recently reader Dave took a wee exception to this:
Well you ONLY tell him the truth if it is THE truth….meaning if you love his cock and it gives you great satisfaction then TELL HIM. But if it’s not quite right, or if it’s smaller than other men then you LIE.
Why you ask? Because most people are not skillful enough with their language to speak the truth and not make the other person feel badly about themselves.
The mere fact that he’s asking you this question means he’s feeling a bit insecure. You’re walking in a minefield at this moment and you better be very mindful of where you step…in other words you need to be very mindful of what you say and how you say it.
Now let’s flip this around and make it about a woman asking if you find her tits attractive or if they are big enough to satisfy you? If they aren’t all that attractive or if they are not as big as you would like…do you think there is ANY WAY you could tell her the truth!? No, of course not! And you’d be a total fool to try and think you could in any way shape or form tell her the truth. You simply lie and say they look sexy and you absolutely love the size of them, the feel of them, how great they feel in your hands and in your mouth.
So ladies: answer him the way you’d want him to answer you. Pretty simple, isn’t it! ?
Such a tough question. I say you need to be honest, but also take his feelings into account. An ideal response would be yes, it is small to me, but I enjoy the overall sexual experience with you. If u don’t enjoy it and are into him for his personality, etc, then there may be problems with the relationship. He is already insecure about his size, and knowing the sex isn’t that great for you will create long-term problems. If that’s the case, then this relationship is doomed.
He knows it´s small! So don´t lie. What he’s looking for is reassurance that you’re OK with him as a person. So, while telling him that he actually has a small penis you always need to underline that this does not change your feelings for him.
In this precarious situation it always helps to praise his other sexual qualities. For example, you could tell him that what he does with his tongue is way more important to you. Whatever you say, do not take back your assessment on his penis size. Once it ́s out, it is best to stay on the track.
It’s not cruel saying his penis is small, as factual information is simply what it is. If you want to be sexually fulfilled, then you have to let him know if he is simply not capable to satisfy you with his small member. You shall not resign yourself to a lifetime of sexual frustration in order to keep him „happy“. Sexual honesty is the key to a fulfilled sex life.
You completely missed the point of Em&Lo’s advice. Their advice was sensitive and thoughtful towards his feelings so not to hurt him. They showed great empathy. You made it all about yourself and could care less that he’d be hurt by your response.
Thank you Stephen…the advice that you credit to Em and Lo was actually written by me! LOL
You actually showed sensitivity towards a guy’s feelings? I find that very hard to believe.
Why don’t you just say…”good response”? But instead you feel the need to attack me. This is your problem in life. You are so angry (especially at women) that you lash out at anyone and everyone.
Honesty is always the best policy – and this applies to dick size and satisfaction (especially for dick size to be honest)
You need to explain to me how telling him his dick is small is going to be the best policy? Do you think he’ll appreciate your candor? Do you think he’ll love you even more? Or do you think he’ll think you’re a heartless bitch for being honest about his ‘short’ comings?