Wise Guys: What Makes a Great BJ?

Advice from three of our guy friends. This week they answer the following: “What’s the difference between an average blowjob and an excellent blowjob?”

Straight Single Guy (Chris): I have had a handful of extraordinary blowjobs in my lifetime. Generally I say something to any talented giver, pointing out how noteworthy her skills are. One lovely woman asked me to explain why I thought it was so good. I thought about it for a minute and I think my answer to her is the same answer to this question:

  • Enthusiasm. You’ve got to enjoy what you do.
  • Vigor. You’ve got to do it like you want to finish the job.
  • Lubrication. You can’t be afraid of a little saliva.

Gay Married Guy (Jon Ross): The thing that really separates the ho-hum BJ from the eyes-rolling-into-the-back-of-my-head one is undoubtedly passion and enthusiasm. Of course, there are many technical aspects that come into play, but even the most experienced, tongue-twisting mouth would be boring if there was no desire behind it. So, if you want to give a guy an excellent blowjob, get into it. There is nothing sexier for me than when the person blowing me is performing enthusiastically and getting turned on while doing so. I understand blowjobs are not everyone’s  cup of tea. So it’s time to play-act a little. Find out what your man likes and go for it full tilt booty. Hopefully you’ll get something equally excellent in return. Oh, and just in case somehow someone missed the memo,  the cardinal rule of blowjobs is NO TEETH.

Straight Married Guy (James Glazebrook): No teeth, and a lot of practice. Problem is, women don’t know how it feels to have your dick sucked, and how it should or shouldn’t be done — and we guys aren’t about to tell them how.  We’re far too grateful to be on the receiving end to interrupt with helpful hints.  We just lay back, relax, and hope it doesn’t grate too much.

Our “guys” are a rotating group of contributors. This week’s Straight Married Guy is James Glazebrook of Manflet, our Straight Single Guy is Chris DiClerico, and our Gay Married Guy is Jon Ross. To ask the guys your own question, click here.


  1. Um, my favourite sex act of all time is giving my man a blow-job while he finger fucks me. We can both cum at the same time 🙂

  2. I never did blow jobs, I found them to be degrading to women, especially when regarded to as “gobbies”, I suppose it’s that image of the town bikes handing them out at parties that turned me off them. However, lately I have acquired myself a boyfriend who I am extremely fond of and my perception of them changed. I found it enjoyable to make him feel good. I used my lips pretty much all over His body which drove him crazy, he was having trouble controlling himself and wanted to do thigs to me, however, I was having such a good time pleasing him, I had to tie him up and gag him with a scarf haha. This added a greater element of enjoyment to the situation, and it made me feel like I wasn’t some sex object to him and that I had some control. I really got into it, switching around from his
    Penis to round his body and back to his penis to keep it exciting. The whole time he was panting, clenching his jaw and almost in tears when I teased. He came,which was apparently not a common occourance without sex. He told me it’s the best he has expirenced, not sure if thats a confidence booster or a truth, but I do think it was the fact I was enjoying it, role playing and getting into it. It was also good on his part to show enjoyment, it helped me feel confident and want to keep going. The location I found was important to, he was sitting on a low couch laying back, so I could see his face most of the time, it created more of a connection and I never felt like the submissive ‘pornstar’

  3. What I need answering is how can your woman go down on you without it hurting? The first time I had it was hilarious. She and I were in a corner of a seemingly abandoned parking lot. She and I had some condoms and she really liked it but as she sucked it, first of all, I guess since I’m circumcised, it doesn’t feel like anything (WHICH I WOULD LIKE TO ASK, HOW DO YOU INCREASE SENSITIVITY SO THAT IT WOULD FEEL LIKE SOMETHING AND FEEL GOOD?) but worse off, it feels like someone is sending my dick through a pencil sharpener. What should I tell her to do? She licks it now and it feels nice, as well as sucking my balls. However when she does both or either one, if I thrust her and dry hump her against the wall, then by the time for the BJ, I get a bit tired to the point that Paco, my penis, is limp. But then when she rides it and she is on top, dry hump of course, then he’s ready to fight Osama Bin Laden again. I am so confused. And before anyone asks, I cannot shove Paco into She-Osama’s Cave just yet (she reserves that spot for her future husband, and I will not do anal. Her boobs are good but not big enough to wrap the Pig in the Blanket. And yes, I can and will finger her. Please help. Thank you.
    Pain in the Paco.

  4. I love my man,I love his penis, and I love having it in every way. I’ve been having trouble with my jaw lately,so I’ve had to take many breaks during oral, but I use, not only my hands, but I like to flick my tongue out at it and rub my face on it and purr just to show how much I love every part of it. I also find that wiggling my tongue around a bit while I’m sucking him drives him crazy. FYI, I love swallowing n hate wasting any…unless he eats asparagus for dinner. Please guys, no asparagus if you want us to go down on you. Yucky…

  5. Same as kitty,these guys should not generalize and speak for everyone. On the no teeth rule. I’ve always been careful never to use my teeth,until my boyfriend actually asked me to. Turns out he loves the sensation,I do it very gently,don’t think I clamp down. He says he lovesit because its different than any of his ex gfs bj skills.I als do a twisting corkscrew motion up n down,EYE CONTACT is the key(makes them feel like they’re watching a “POV” porno I suppose),rub ur breasts and masturbate your p***y while giving him a bj and deepthroat as much as u can. Oh yea,and if you really want to burn your image into his brain and make his eyes roll back,let him give u a facial. My bf’s told me I’m the best bj giver he’s ever had,he’s had a lot of ex gfs,me,only a handful. Aguy can’t be wrong,its all in the technique.

  6. I love reading the comments. I asked my bf if I needed pointers and he said absolutely not…I could teach. That made me feel great. I love giving BJs and never rush.

  7. Okay, so..
    My loverr likes it when I use my teeth.
    “Don’t be afraid to be a little rough.”
    I’d read everywhere that guys hate it when girls use their teeth — that it’s painful and uncomfortable, but my man loved it! Is that not normal?
    I didn’t mind it but it was a little difficult to be so careful about not biting his penis. o-o’

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