Gay Issues
TV
The Silver Linings of Survivor’s Public Trans Outing

Last night on Survivor, during a desperate attempt to throw a fellow competitor under the bus to save his own skin at tribal council, Jeff Varner outed Zeke Smith as a transgender man — seemingly forgetting that it wasn’t just six other players cut off from society who’d hear the news, but potentially millions. Zeke had […]

Pop Culture
FINALLY: LGBTQ & Interracial Greeting Cards!

by Liza Walter for YourTango What took so long?!?! If you’ve ever walked down the greeting card aisle in your local store, you’re probably aware that it’s pretty generic. Even the funny cards are kind of meh these days, right? And aside from “Cards for Grandpa, and “Cards for Grandma,” there aren’t many creative options […]

Personal Essays
Confession: How My Asexuality Affects Love and, Yes, Sex

by Erika Price   It’s SO different when you don’t feel any sexual desire. In high school, I openly identified as asexual, and I don’t think it ever stopped being true really. My friend Erik introduced me to the term. We were in tenth grade and his friend Jared was driving us both home from […]

Pop Culture
The Light Touch of Love in “Moonlight”

– A Review of the Best Cinematic Love Story This Year –  By now you’ve heard about the royal fuck up at the 2017 Oscars: the presenters of the Best Picture award got the wrong envelope (the one pronouncing Emma Stone as Best Actress for La La Land), they announced La La Land as the winner […]

Pop Culture
The 21 Best Transgender Books for Kids

Bad news: The so-called president of the United States just rescinded the Obama administration’s federal guidelines for schools to allow kids to use the public bathrooms that match their gender identity, arguing unconvincingly that this is a states’ rights — not a civil rights — issue. Both Obama’s roll-out and Trump’s rescinding were largely symbolic, but the former set […]

Celebrities
“Cult” Not “Author” Is the JT LeRoy Documentary You Should Watch

Laura Albert is pretending to be someone she’s not. Again. Or maybe she’s telling the truth this time. That’s the problem when someone lies so much to so many people: when should we start believing their stories about wolves? You probably know Albert better as JT LeRoy, the abused, abandoned, HIV-positive, gender-bending, teenaged, trick-turning, literary […]

News
What Do You Call a Trans Man Who Gives Birth and Nurses?

Lucky! Time Magazine recently ran an article entitled “My Brother’s Pregnancy and the Making of a New American Family” by Jessi Hempel about a transgender man getting pregnant, having a baby and nursing his child (which introduced us to our new favorite term, “chest-feeding”): Pregnancies like Evan’s—and the many that are likely to follow—will stretch our cultural perceptions […]

Sex Poetry
Taboo Sex Is Best, According to This Victorian Poet

Lord Alfred Douglas, known affectionately as “Bosie,” was the infamous young lover of Oscar Wilde (think Jude Law and Stephen Fry in 1997’s “Wilde”) — infamous not only because of his late-19th-century indiscretion, but because of his Veruca-Salt tendencies (“I want it now, Daddy!”). Two of his poems were brought up in Wilde’s “gross indecency” […]

Confessions
“DON’T Marry Someone for Their Potential”

Embed from Getty Images   Ciris had a particularly thoughtful response to our recent Your Call, “How Can He Get His Boyfriend to Fight Fair?” which broached the topic of trying to change a partner before you get married: A lot of the discussion seems to be “what I would do” or pseudo-psychoanalysis of the […]

Your Call
How Can He Get His Boyfriend to Fight Fair?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make YOUR CALL on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section.  My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 […]

News
8 Things You Should Know About Consent on College Campuses

by Sarah Marcantonio, a student at Emerson University in Boston Consent (noun): Permission, approval or agreement.  Here’s my definition of sexual consent: two (or more) people actively, explicitly and consciously agreeing to have sexual interactions throughout those interactions, with no party having any reservations at any point. I was taught, both in high school in […]

Your Call
I’m a Straight Man with a Man Crush

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section.  Hey you guys. I need help on something. […]

Advice
5 Dangerous Misconceptions Many Therapists Have About Sex

by clinical psychologist David J. Ley for YourTango Just because your therapist saw it on Dr. Phil, that doesn’t make it true … You may find this hard to believe, but most therapists, psychologists and doctors have received no training in sexuality. A minority of mental health, social work or medical training programs offer graduate-level training in sexuality issues, […]

Your Call
My Bisexual Girlfriend Likes Kissing Girls – Should I Worry?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section.  I’m 22 y.o. and my girlfriend just admitted […]

Confessions
The Best Butt Sex Philosophy: Your Booty, Your Business

Chuck is our kind of guy. In fact, he’s the kind of guy we’re hoping to create more of with this here site and all its post on anal play. He recently commented on one — “Do Most Straight Men Secretly Love Bum Play?” — and made us proud: I’m married, straight, and really like it! If […]

Sex Poetry
Allen Ginsberg’s Date with Walt Whitman at the Grocery Store

Allen Ginsberg wrote “A Supermarket in California” in his 1956 masterpiece, Howl and Other Poems,  in honor of the centennial anniversary of Walt Whitman’s Leaves of Grass. Its focus is on modern American consumerism, but there’s an undercurrent of “counter-culture” sexuality throughout: Ginsberg (the narrator of the poem), Whitman (the focus), and 1930s poet García Lorca (the side character) were […]