Gay Issues
Sex Poetry
Taboo Sex Is Best, According to This Victorian Poet

Lord Alfred Douglas, known affectionately as “Bosie,” was the infamous young lover of Oscar Wilde (think Jude Law and Stephen Fry in 1997’s “Wilde”) — infamous not only because of his late-19th-century indiscretion, but because of his Veruca-Salt tendencies (“I want it now, Daddy!”). Two of his poems were brought up in Wilde’s “gross indecency” […]

Confessions
“DON’T Marry Someone for Their Potential”

Embed from Getty Images   Ciris had a particularly thoughtful response to our recent Your Call, “How Can He Get His Boyfriend to Fight Fair?” which broached the topic of trying to change a partner before you get married: A lot of the discussion seems to be “what I would do” or pseudo-psychoanalysis of the […]

Your Call
How Can He Get His Boyfriend to Fight Fair?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make YOUR CALL on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section.  My boyfriend and I have been together for 3 […]

News
8 Things You Should Know About Consent on College Campuses

by Sarah Marcantonio, a student at Emerson University in Boston Consent (noun): Permission, approval or agreement.  Here’s my definition of sexual consent: two (or more) people actively, explicitly and consciously agreeing to have sexual interactions throughout those interactions, with no party having any reservations at any point. I was taught, both in high school in […]

Pop Culture
The 21 Best Transgender Books for Kids

  Great news: A recent study published in Pediatrics has shown that families who support their child’s decision to live as a gender different from their birth sex are no more or less depressed than the national average. So whether you’ve got a child questioning their gender identity, know a kid who is, or just […]

Your Call
I’m a Straight Man with a Man Crush

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section.  Hey you guys. I need help on something. […]

Advice
5 Dangerous Misconceptions Many Therapists Have About Sex

by clinical psychologist David J. Ley for YourTango Just because your therapist saw it on Dr. Phil, that doesn’t make it true … You may find this hard to believe, but most therapists, psychologists and doctors have received no training in sexuality. A minority of mental health, social work or medical training programs offer graduate-level training in sexuality issues, […]

Your Call
My Bisexual Girlfriend Likes Kissing Girls – Should I Worry?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section.  I’m 22 y.o. and my girlfriend just admitted […]

Confessions
The Best Butt Sex Philosophy: Your Booty, Your Business

Chuck is our kind of guy. In fact, he’s the kind of guy we’re hoping to create more of with this here site and all its post on anal play. He recently commented on one — “Do Most Straight Men Secretly Love Bum Play?” — and made us proud: I’m married, straight, and really like it! If […]

Sex Poetry
Allen Ginsberg’s Date with Walt Whitman at the Grocery Store

Allen Ginsberg wrote “A Supermarket in California” in his 1956 masterpiece, Howl and Other Poems,  in honor of the centennial anniversary of Walt Whitman’s Leaves of Grass. Its focus is on modern American consumerism, but there’s an undercurrent of “counter-culture” sexuality throughout: Ginsberg (the narrator of the poem), Whitman (the focus), and 1930s poet García Lorca (the side character) were […]