Advice
Advice
Why Kids Need Extracurricular Sex Ed

Lo is the founder of The Butterfly Academy, an extracurricular sex ed organization for kids and their caregivers. Think of all the ways we as parents and guardians try to broaden our kids’ horizons when we’re able to. We might: sign them up for sports so they stay healthy with exercise and learn the importance […]

Confessions
How to Give a Sex Ed Lesson at a Slumber Party

A dad friend of mine, who’d read my recent piece on making sexual assault in the news a teachable moment for kids, forwarded me the following tweet from Andi Zeisler while I was in the middle of my 11-year-old’s birthday slumber party: The 4th-grade boys coming to my kid’s slumber party tonight are really in […]

How To
10 Practical Ways Parents Can Fight Rape Culture

The powerful, unapologetic, detailed statement of Brock Turner’s rape victim made public recently touched a collective nerve, resulting in a huge outcry on social media about the rape culture that left him convicted of three sexual assault felonies but only serving 6 months in jail. The outcry, which has already begun to fade, has often […]

Books
5 Terms Every Parent Should Add to Their Sex-Ed Vocabulary

Cory Silverberg is elevating in-home sex-ed to an art form, one kick-ass book at a time. His first kids’ book on reproduction, called WHAT MAKES A BABY (for preschoolers through 2nd-graders), combines inclusive language, helpful descriptions, and bright, bold and beautiful illustrations by Fiona Smyth (that get us all nostalgic for “Free to Be You and Me“) […]

How To
3 Reasons Why YOU Should Take Charge of Your Kids’ Sex Ed

If your goal is to raise confused and ashamed kids, then go ahead and skip “The Talk.” Our kids’ sex education begins the moment they tune into the world around them. Numerous gateways introduce them to our highly sexualized society: smartphones, tablets, laptops, television, supermarket tabloids, and sometimes our own jokes and language. With so […]

Dear Em & Lo
Dear Em & Lo: Should I Teach My Goddaughter Sex Ed?

Dear Em & Lo, My goddaughter has reached the age where sexual exploration is something she might be considering delving into (if she hasn’t already). I’m not sure how to approach the issue of birth control with her. If she is wanting to have, or already is having sex then I want to support her […]

How To
7 Ways to Fight the “Mommy Problem” from Within Your Relationship

We loved Heather Havrilesky’s “Mommy Problem” article in the Times a while back, about how “the culture demands that every mother be all in, all the time.” And we’re not alone, clearly: We lost count of the number of our friends who gave it the “yep” response in their Facebook feed. Responding in Jezebel, Tracy […]

How To
8 Potty Habits That Will Improve Your Sex Life

Let’s talk about poop, baby – the most ordinary of bodily functions, yet the one most mired in shame and lame Freudian stages. We’re all victims of evolution’s big cosmic joke: the placement of the body’s waste disposal system right next to its biggest pleasure receptors. No wonder sex is often considered dirty! One of […]

How To
In Honor of International Women’s Day: 7 Ways to Achieve Sexual Equality

Every year, March 8th is International Women’s Day, a political holiday that honors the struggles, achievements and hopes for women worldwide. Since its first observance in 1908, we’ve come along way, baby — but not nearly as far as you might think: The World Economic Forum predicted in 2014 that it would take until 2095 […]

Dear Em & Lo
I Can Orgasm Easily, What’s Wrong with Me?!

Dear Em & Lo, I’ve never been a girl who has difficulty reaching an orgasm.  I started masturbating in college and learned pretty quickly what I like and what I do.  Now when I’m with a guy, I find that I get off — really quickly and really hard.  With my most recent hook-up, we […]

How To
10 Steps to Winning Valentine’s Day (with Just 1 Trip to the Grocery Store!)

Short on time? Don’t want to spend a lot of money? But still want to acknowledge your undying affection on Valentine’s Day? All it takes is one trip to the grocery store, a little effort, and a lot of love. 1. NO Red Roses! Go with their favorite flower instead — it’s less cliche, more personal.   […]

Dream Interpretation
I Keep Dreaming About Sex with My Husband’s Friend

Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex & relationships. If you’ve got a good one, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg just might tell you what it means! Click here to submit yours (18 and older only for dream interpretations, please). This week, a reader asks Lauri about dreaming of “having sex with my husband’s friend.” I have a reoccurring dream where I have sex with my […]

How To
4 Ways to Improve Doggy Style

Voted as an absolute favourite among the sexually active, doggy style has been wildly popular as the best position to hit the spot…the G-spot, that is! But for those who aren’t convinced, here are four techniques that’ll enhance your from-behind experience so that you can receive maximum pleasure every time. The Lazy Doggy Style According […]

How To
6 Booty Rules for Sharing a Space

What’s the etiquette of getting some nookie when there’s a roommate in the picture? We’re not talking about having sex with your roommate — if you’re doing that, poor soul, then even we can’t save you from the inevitable blow-up. No, we’re talking about the delicate issue of when, where, and how to have sex if […]

How To
20 Naughty New Year’s Resolutions

Here are twenty totally do-able New Year’s resolutions to improve your love life this year. Learn them, live them, love them! Ask for what you want. Keep learning new things. Let go of shame. Be a stickler about safer sex. Go for quality rather than quantity. Don’t hold grudges in your relationship. Believe in love […]