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Special Issue: Summer Lovin’

Your beach reading should include all our articles on how to make summer lovin’ a blast!

Dream Interpretation
My Friend-with-Benefits Says “I Love You” in My Dreams…

Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex & relationships. If you’ve got a good one, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg just might tell you what it means! Click here to submit yours (18 and older only for dream interpretations, please). This week, a reader asks Lauri about dreaming of a friend-with-benefits saying “I love you” in her dreams.” I’ve […]

Toys
Siri 2, the LELO Music Vibrator

Every now and then you try a sex toy that is so perfectly in tune with you that you wonder if it knows what you want before you know it yourself. This is often half by chance and half by design. LELO wanted to identify exactly what it is that makes a good pleasure object […]

How To
10 Tips for Finding Love on the 4th of July

Like New Year’s, the Fourth is one of those holidays where the hype always exceeds the reality. But that doesn’t mean you single folk should take it off this year, sit home and binge Killing Eve in your underwear. Independence is overrated! No, you’ve got to put on a happy face,  suck it up and work the […]

Personal Essays
You Don’t Have to Have a Dick to Date Rape Someone, You Just Need to Be One

The following is the story of a 30-something contributor who wishes to remain anonymous. I drove home from a recent Bumble date, crying the entire way. I had bruises on my neck, arms and chest from being choked and bitten. I bled for almost a full 24 hours after. It hurt to sit for days […]

Pop Culture
The Best Transgender Books for Kids

The bad news: Trump’s list of discriminatory actions against the transgender community so far is too long to list in this post. Him rescinding the Obama administration’s federal guidelines for schools to allow kids to use the public bathrooms that match their gender identity — arguing unconvincingly that this is a states’ rights and not a civil […]

Special Issue
The Em & Lo Down on Ravishment Fantasies (aka Rape Fantasies)

One of the most popular fantasies is the ravishment fantasy. Does that mean, deep down, people really want to be sexually dominated against their will? We break down the meanings and myths behind one of the most common — and taboo — of sex day dreams.

How To
Rethinking Intercourse: 8 Ideas to Improve the Old “In-Out”

The definition of sex is not “intercourse”. You won’t find terms like “going all the way” on this site, because intercourse is not the last lap you complete to win a medal — in fact, it’s not even a requirement for “winning” at sex. No, intercourse is one of many ways to engage in sexual […]

Toys
A New, Innovative Way to Deal with Painful Sex: The Ohnut

Emily Sauer is the founder of Ohnut, an intimate health wearable for painful intercourse that allows you to customize the depth of penetration (think of a “donut” made for decreasing pain and thus increasing pleasure). We asked her a few questions about it (see below). It’s a super cool product for a widespread but under-acknowledged problem. […]

Dream Interpretation
I Keep Dreaming About an Ex Who Wouldn’t Commit

Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex & relationships. If you’ve got a good one, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg just might tell you what it means! Click here to submit yours (18 and older only for dream interpretations, please). This week, a reader asks Lauri about dreaming of an ex who wouldn’t commit. I keep having dreams of […]

Dear Em & Lo
Dear Em & Lo, Is “Cunt” an Appropriate Word for Dirty Talk?

Dear Em & Lo, Hello there. This morning for the first time, my new boyfriend and I fucked. It was going okay until he came out with the word “cunt.”  I froze. Maybe it’s just me, but, I always blush at this word. Now, he wants me to use it when, or rather if, we […]

How To
How to Use a Wand Massager

Wand massagers are often referred to as “back massagers,” with an emphasis on the quotation marks, a wink and a nudge indicating that the item is not used on the back but on areas more southerly. However, wands have all sorts of uses, both sensual and sexual. Our favorite of the all-over-body massagers is the […]

Dear Em & Lo
Dear Em & Lo: Were We Ever Really in Love?

Dear Em & Lo, Four months ago my girlfriend of three years ended our relationship. She gave me generic reasons: “It’s not you, it’s me; we’re too young for such a serious relationship; we have a lot to experience.” Finally this week I got her to drop her guard and open up to me. Her […]

News
How to Write a Breakup Letter…According to Donald Trump

President Donald Trump just broke up with North Korea’s Kim Jong Un. After some smack talk from both sides, Trump canceled their much ballyhooed nuclear arms summit scheduled for June 12th, 2018 in a letter made public by the White House. The breakup letter is a master class in passive aggressive bitterness that could only […]

Dear Em & Lo
My New Boyfriend Has a Small Penis…At Least, It’s Small to Me

Dear Em & Lo, About six months ago I broke up with my boyfriend of 18 months and have recently met someone new. The other day the new boy and I were engaging in some hands-on action which led me to discover that he nowhere near measured up to my ex. The new boy was […]

News
The Difference Between Kink and Abuse

Are there no decent men in the world? NY Attorney General Eric Schneiderman was supposed to be one of the good ones, a champion of the #MeToo Movement who was going after alleged serial sexual assaulter and rapist, Harvey Weinstein. But then The New Yorker (which might seriously need to consider changing its name to “To […]