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Happy MLK Day!

“Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that.” –Martin Luther King, Jr. Did you know that only about a third of employers in the U.S. observe Martin Luther King Day as a holiday? So we’re doing our bit by honoring this federal holiday. (Okay, so that’s not exactly a “bit.” Get inspired to […]

Dream Interpretation
I Keep Dreaming About Sex with My Husband’s Friend

Other people’s dreams are never interesting…except when they’re about sex & relationships. If you’ve got a good one, our dream analyst Lauri Loewenberg just might tell you what it means! Click here to submit yours (18 and older only for dream interpretations, please). This week, a reader asks Lauri about dreaming of “having sex with my husband’s friend.” I have a reoccurring dream where I have sex with my […]

How To
4 Ways to Improve Doggy Style

Voted as an absolute favourite among the sexually active, doggy style has been wildly popular as the best position to hit the spot…the G-spot, that is! But for those who aren’t convinced, here are four techniques that’ll enhance your from-behind experience so that you can receive maximum pleasure every time. The Lazy Doggy Style According […]

How To
6 Booty Rules for Sharing a Space

What’s the etiquette of getting some nookie when there’s a roommate in the picture? We’re not talking about having sex with your roommate — if you’re doing that, poor soul, then even we can’t save you from the inevitable blow-up. No, we’re talking about the delicate issue of when, where, and how to have sex if […]

How To
20 Naughty New Year’s Resolutions

Here are twenty totally do-able New Year’s resolutions to improve your love life this year. Learn them, live them, love them! Ask for what you want. Keep learning new things. Let go of shame. Be a stickler about safer sex. Go for quality rather than quantity. Don’t hold grudges in your relationship. Believe in love […]

Pop Culture
Fuck Mistletoe

Thanks to the #MeToo Movement, it’s become clear it’s high time to get rid of some long-standing traditions: sexual predation by men in power, friends and colleagues who turn a blind eye to — or worse, enable — misconduct, useless H.R. departments, answering the door in a robe, secret under-the-desk buttons that lock the office […]

Toys
The 12 Moves of Christmas

Deck your halls! Jingle your bells! Spin your dreidel! Stuff your stocking! The holiday-themed euphemisms can go on for days – 12 days to be exact. Far from letting the holidays stress us out, let this festive time of year color every part of our lives, even the bedroom, where you and a chosen partner can […]

Dear Em & Lo
Dear Em & Lo: I’m Put Out About His Porn

There is a long-standing debate over whether porn is good for you or bad for you. We received two questions from straight women decidedly in the “bad for you” camp. So we “remixed” our Wise Guys’ thoughts on the topic with some of our own to come up with advice for straight women disturbed by […]

Dear Em & Lo
Can I Lead a Full Life Without Sex?

Dear Em & Lo, I’m 34 and I’ve never had a boyfriend. I was molested as a child and raped as an adult. I’ve never had consensual sex. Yet I have intensely sexual dreams. I’ve had years of counseling, but the fear of having a sexual relationship remains. I isolate myself from men.  The only […]

How To
What’s It Like to Use a Prostate Massager?

The following is an anonymous account of the experiences of trying LELO’s LOKI prostate massager for the first time. At this point of my life and my experience with anal pleasure – my tush tenure, if you will – I feel that I’ve graduated to more robust pleasure products when it comes to plugging and pegging. I considered the […]

Sexual Health
Happy Intersex Awareness Day!

One of my kids has red hair. So when I discovered the upper estimate of the population born with intersex traits is 1.7% — similar to the number of red-haired people in the world — it really hit home how common intersexuality is. You certainly know — or at the very least have met — […]

Advice
5 Argument Tactics That Never Work

Did you ever see the movie Revolutionary Road? It’s a PSA on how NOT to fight as a couple. For those of you who’d rather not submit to two hours of cinematic depression, here are the five hateful argument tactics you should avoid for the sake of love: 1. Fighting Dirty Avoid the temptation to say […]

What's Up Doc?
Dr. Kate: Is Breast Self-Exam Best?

Many of my patients come in for their yearly check-ups, and as I do their breast exam, they confess that they haven’t been checking themselves as regularly as they ought to. But there isn’t really a clear answer as to whether or not women “should” perform breast self-exam (or BSE) on a regular basis. There […]

Do It Tonight
Hot Tip: Be Submissive…On Purpose

If you want a little freedom from all your daily responsibilities, if you’re sick of having to make decisions, if you kinda like being held down and tickled….then why not spend an evening being submissive for a change? Let your partner call all the shots. By being (temporarily) submissive in the bedroom, you can get […]