Dirty Talk
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Dear Em & Lo, Is “Cunt” an Appropriate Word for Dirty Talk?

Dear Em & Lo, Hello there. This morning for the first time, my new boyfriend and I fucked. It was going okay until he came out with the word “cunt.”  I froze. Maybe it’s just me, but, I always blush at this word. Now, he wants me to use it when, or rather if, we […]

How To
How to Have Phone Sex in 10 Easy Steps

You’re away on business, you don’t know a soul in this town, you’re holed up in your hotel room, alone and lonely (read: horny) and because you are a not a cheating scumbag and this isn’t Up in the Air, you pick up the phone to call your honey at home in the hopes of […]

Advice
10 Fun Sexts to Send!

By Emily Ratay for YourTango Sex is supposed to be fun. The more at ease you can be with your partner (or partners) about sex, the better it is. Rather than worrying about embarrassing yourself, you can just laugh off any unsmooth moves together. Crack jokes, be lighthearted — that helps make sex a less taboo topic. Aside from actually doing the […]

Confessions
Top 10 Ways to Make Oral Sex More Fun for Both Partners

Our contributor Jewely Hoxie studied Human Sexuality at the University of California Santa Cruz. She has some words of wisdom to share about oral sex… Going down on someone is no easy task. And letting someone go down on you can be quite nerve-racking. Despite these potential oral sex setbacks, the experience can be, well, […]

How To
The Art of “Everything But” for Straight People

Many, many, many, many women don’t climax from intercourse, so why rush to get there when you can spend time on more rewarding acts? Here, the how-to tips for everything from soul-stirring kissing to mind-blowing oral sex, guaranteed to improve both partners’ non-intercourse sex life. 1. Talking Whispering dirty nothings to each other is one of the […]

How To
A 60-Second Master Class in the Subtle Art of Non-Cheesy Dirty Talk

We recently featured some great sex tips from some of the winners of our Wildfire Contest, which asked readers to give us their best tip for lighting up their love life. The following winning entry was so good, it deserved its own dedicated post: Best tip? Easy. Read. Read to her. Read to her in bed and […]

News
Casual Kink: Sooner, Faster, Weirder

Ever wondered what it takes to make two seasoned sex writers stammer and blush? Try mentioning casual rimming. We’ve devoted hundreds of words over the years to the fine art of analingus: the intimacy it both requires and engenders, the thrill of busting a taboo together, the importance of showering first… but we always, always […]

How To
5 Fixes for Saying the Wrong Name in Bed

Dear Em & Lo,  I like this man so much. But I called him my ex’s name when he was going down on me and I wasn’t even thinking of my ex or anything! I was with my ex for 2 years and this guy 3 months. I’m done with my ex but the new […]

Confessions
Baby Talk in Bed Helps My Tough Guy Get in Touch with His Feminine Side

Reader Misty Marie posted the following in response to our post “Baby Talk: Intimacy Tool or Just Plain Gross?” It’s kind of an intense story, and we think she’s pretty brave for sharing it. Sure, maybe you couldn’t stand sleeping with a misogynist who treated you like this, and maybe some women would completely lose their sense […]

How To
10 Tips for Great Phone Sex

You’re away on business, you don’t know a soul in this town, you’re holed up in your hotel room, alone and lonely (read: horny) and because you are a not a cheating scumbag and this isn’t Up in the Air, you pick up the phone to call your honey at home in the hopes of […]

How To
The 5 Bad Words You Can’t Say in a Relationship

by Julie Orlav for YourTango Words are POWERFUL. Words can cut you, heal you and even inspire you. Learning the language of relationships and marriage takes time and diligence, but saying some words regularly may cause irreparable damage. Here are five words that are destined to damage your relationship: 1. “Never” Never implies a sense […]

How To
5 Easy Ways to Talk Dirtier Tonight

Dirty talk can terrify even the most seasoned sexual adventurer—people are afraid of sounding stupid or afraid of like a pornstar… or perhaps they’re afraid of not sounding like a pornstar. But when you break it down, dirty talk is actually much simpler and more approachable than you might think. Here are five easy ways […]

Wise Guys
Wise Guys: How Do Men Feel About Dirty Talk?

photo by db*photography Advice from three of EMandLO.com’s guy friends. This week they answer the following: “What’s your opinion of dirty talk?“ To ask the guys your own question, click here. Gay Single Guy (Angelo Nikolopoulos of The White Swallow): I’m not categorically opposed to dirty talk, as long as my sexual soup de jour isn’t a complete moron. Which […]

Toys
How to Improve Phone Sex Without Saying a Thing

We’re frequently asked by readers how they can get into phone sex. They tell us that they don’t know what to say, or how to say it, or how to initiate it — but most of all, they tell us that it just feels so strange and silly and isolated to be sitting there with […]

Dear Em & Lo
Your Call: Why Does My BF Ask About My Exes During Sex?

photo via flickr We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. And frankly, this one is a doozie. Make your call by leaving your response in the comments section below. Dear […]

Your Call
Your Call: How Can I Talk Dirty?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below by leaving your advice in the comments section.  Dear Em & Lo, I have a younger […]