Intercourse
How To
Rethinking Intercourse: 8 Ideas to Improve the Old “In-Out”

The definition of sex is not “intercourse”. You won’t find terms like “going all the way” on this site, because intercourse is not the last lap you complete to win a medal — in fact, it’s not even a requirement for “winning” at sex. No, intercourse is one of many ways to engage in sexual […]

Toys
A New, Innovative Way to Deal with Painful Sex: The Ohnut

Emily Sauer is the founder of Ohnut, an intimate health wearable for painful intercourse that allows you to customize the depth of penetration (think of a “donut” made for decreasing pain and thus increasing pleasure). We asked her a few questions about it (see below). It’s a super cool product for a widespread but under-acknowledged problem. […]

TV
Sex Is Life-Affirming Freedom in “The Handmaid’s Tale” 

[spoiler alert!] When the state controls your body, sex is rape. The “ceremony” scenes in Season 1 of “The Handmaid’s Tale” on Hulu (based on the 1985 seemingly evergreen novel of the same name by Margaret Atwood) made that clear: when a fertile handmaid’s male “master” penetrates her in the presence of his infertile wife, there […]

Toys
The Difference Between Wearable Couple’s Massagers

Wearable couples’ massagers are really quite unique:  unlike traditional vibrators, they are won inside the body during intercourse and allow both partners to revel in the sensations together. So let’s take a look at three popular ones from our favorite pleasure makers, LELO. Each of the three massagers below — the TIANI 2, the TIANI 3 […]

How To
6 Ways to Have More Sex Without It Feeling Like a Chore

According to this research, having more sex may actually make couples less happy — if they feel like they’re being told to have more sex. The Carnegie Mellon study, published in the Journal of Economic Behavior & Organization, studied 64 heterosexual married couples between 35 and 65 years old. Group one was told to have sex […]

Toys
LELO’s Tiani 2, Explained

Tiani 2 is among LELO’s consistent bestsellers and it’s no surprise why: when worn during intercourse, it delivers intense and focused vibrations directly where they’re wanted most. Because of this award-winning vibe’s ability to be controlled via wireless remote, it opens up a whole bunch of new possibilities for play. These wireless controllers feature a range that’s farther than most wifi routers […]

Advice
The Unbearable Lightness of Blowjobs

Miranda Levy is a major in Women, Gender & Sexuality Studies at Elon University where she pens a sex column for its student-run lifestyle magazine, The Edge.  “Popping her cherry” “Swiping my V-card” “Going all the way” All of these phrases — and countless more — connote one single, sexual act: intercourse. Given its reproductive implications, our […]

What's Up Doc?
Dr. Kate, Does a LEEP Procedure Increase My Risk for Contracting STDs?

Dr. Kate is an OB/GYN at one of the largest teaching hospitals in Boston who lectures nationally on women’s health issues and conducts research on reproductive health.  She regularly (and generously!) answers your health questions here on EMandLO.com — this week, it’s about a LEEP procedure for HPV. To ask her your own med question, click here. Dear Dr. Kate, What […]

Dear Em & Lo
10 Steps to Orgasming WITH Your Partner

One of the most common questions we receive from heterosexual women is, “How can I orgasm in bed with my partner?” The really demanding ones want to know how to orgasm simultaneously, during penetration, every time. If this is you, then sorry, you’re out of luck; if we knew the answer to that question, we’d […]

Your Call
Your Call: Why Is Her Husband Choosing Porn Over Sex?

We get a lot of advice questions coming in at EMandLO.com, but sadly, we just can’t answer them all. Which is why, about once a week, we turn to you to decide how best to advise a reader. Make your call on the letter below — from a woman whose husband is choosing porn over sex — by leaving your […]

How To
The Do’s and Don’ts of Vacation Sex (Video)

Going on vacay with your partner? Here are 14 quick rules to follow to turn up the heat and make your tropical or summertime vacation sex great! Details are below the video: 1. Don’t stress about your bathing-suit body. You don’t go on vacation with the body you want, you go on vacation with the […]

Personal Essays
Confession: I Was Allergic to Sex

I started having intercourse at 15. Besides the perpetual awkwardness of budding teenage sexuality and the occasional urinary tract infection (UTI), my first few casual sex experiences in high school were fun, comfortable and safe — what I would call “healthy.”  Sophomore year, I entered a long distance relationship, and soon noticed that after my […]

How To
6 Rules for Outdoor Sex (Video)

Now that the weather’s turning warmer, many people are overcome by two urges: to get outside and to get it on — two great tastes that taste great together! And so the season of outdoor sex has begun — is there anything more all-American worth celebrating this July 4th? But it’s not all fun and […]

What's Up Doc?
Dr. Kate, His Big Penis Caused Pain, Bleeding & Cramps – Help!

Dr. Kate is an OB/GYN at one of the largest teaching hospitals in Boston who lectures nationally on women’s health issues and conducts research on reproductive health.  She regularly (and generously!) answers your health questions here on EMandLO.com. To ask her your own, click here. Hello Dr. Kate, I had sex last night with a man who had a larger penis […]