If you want a little freedom from all your daily responsibilities, if you’re sick of having to make decisions, if you kinda like being held down and tickled….then why not spend an evening being submissive for a change? Let your partner call all the shots. By being (temporarily) submissive in the bedroom, you can get […]
Dear Em & Lo, I’m writing to ask you about your opinion of rape fantasies. I’ve been in a serious and loving relationship with my boyfriend for almost four years now. It’s a very egalitarian, loving, supportive and comfortable relationship. Yet both my boyfriend and I immensely enjoy acting out rape fantasies. We enjoy having […]
Are there no decent men in the world? NY Attorney General Eric Schneiderman was supposed to be one of the good ones, a champion of the #MeToo Movement who was going after alleged serial sexual assaulter and rapist, Harvey Weinstein. But then The New Yorker (which might seriously need to consider changing its name to “To […]
We finally got closure on our seriously unhealthy relationship with the Fifty Shades juggernaut this past weekend. Fifty Shades Freed, the third and final cinematic adaptation of E.L. James’ best-selling erotica trilogy, was released on Friday — much to the chagrin of hardcore fans and to the relief of movie critics everywhere. The success of […]
There are some promises that are never meant to be kept: I’ll meet you at the bar later after I’ve had a nap. I’m going to hit the gym during my lunch break. I’ll take a look at these materials you’re handing out door-to-door and get back to you. These promises are empty by design, […]
You know what makes a great, fun, affordable stocking stuffer (that you an still get last minute)? Our book, 150 SHADES OF PLAY: A Beginner’s Guide to Kink! To whet your appetite, may we present our own special sexy sacrilegious spin on a Xmas classic. Enjoy: On the 12th Day of Kinkmas my true sub gave to me…12 […]
Has holiday shopping for him got you saying ‘bah humbug’? If you’re having trouble picking out the perfect present, why not choose a gift that says you’ve got his pleasure on your mind? Here is the official LELO 2017 Gift Guide for giving the guy in your life something to go gaga over. *Use code […]
The blindfolds that comes free with transatlantic flights are sometimes printed with the phrase “forty winks” — and we think we know what kind of winks they’re talking about. Who hasn’t stuffed a complimentary blindfold into their carry-on and thought, “Ooh, I should use that sometime”? But, really, you should. You can go high-end with […]
If you don’t have a favorite sexual fantasy, then you haven’t spent enough time dirty–day dreaming. Inspiration surrounds you — you just have to seek it out. Browse a sex toy shop, in person or online, for some new gadgets, accessories, videos, or books. Kinky erotica like Anne Rice’s The Claiming of Sleeping Beauty or […]
Anna had some good ideas about wading into kinky waters, especially if you’re not sure how to swim, in her response to the post “He’s Kinky, She’s Vanilla: Is Their Relationship Doomed?” Learn more about BDSM. Read some BDSM erotic books. See if there is anything that turns you on and try those things. You […]
Fifty Shades Darker, the second movie in the trilogy based on the best-selling erotica series by E.L. James, certainly looks darker — the shadows are blacker, the skies are grayer, the rain is heavier. Every day in this movie feels like Sunday. But if you’re looking for an exploration of the more unnerving and dismaying aspects of […]
1. You want a little freedom from all your daily responsibilities. 2. You’ve been with your partner for a while and things are getting a little routine. 3. You kinda like being held down and tickled. 4. You’ve thought about downloading our incredibly affordable book, “150 Shades of Play: A Beginner’s Guide to Kink.” 5. […]
Many, many, many, many women don’t climax from intercourse, so why rush to get there when you can spend time on more rewarding acts? Here, the how-to tips for everything from soul-stirring kissing to mind-blowing oral sex, guaranteed to improve both partners’ non-intercourse sex life. 1. Talking Whispering dirty nothings to each other is one of the […]
Miranda Levy is a major in Women, Gender & Sexuality Studies at Elon University where she pens a sex column for its student-run lifestyle magazine, The Edge. “Just because you like to be tied up, spanked, and called ‘bitch,’ doesn’t mean you’re a bad feminist.” — Em & Lo, “The Big Bang” The first time […]
Dear Em & Lo, I recently found out my husband of 12 years has been cheating with a lot of different women. I’ve always known this in my heart, but never could believe it because he knows how to manipulate me. He knows how to cover himself very well. When he is with other women he […]
What is forbidden in the real world can sometimes make for a fun romp between consenting adults (who’ve explicitly outlined their boundaries and agreed on a safe word). It’s called roleplaying, and there are two components that can really help you get into character: 1) the right outfits, and 2) a backstory with emotional tension, […]
