Anna had some good ideas about wading into kinky waters, especially if you’re not sure how to swim, in her response to the post “He’s Kinky, She’s Vanilla: Is Their Relationship Doomed?”

Learn more about BDSM. Read some BDSM erotic books. See if there is anything that turns you on and try those things. You can participate in BDSM without necessarily being a submissive. I am a bottom, which means I take the submissive role in sex and play, but in other aspects of my life I am in control. BDSM encompasses so many things and the practices are meant to be safe sane and consensual. Do these things in baby steps and, who knows, you might be surprised you like some practices. When I started I thought I was going to like bondage and hate pain . . . turns out I am a masochist who hates being tied down, lol! I had to try the stuff first.

10 Reasons to Become a Submissive
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